https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/A-significant-day/m-p/9299#M1029 I feel like sharing, and I know people on here will understand. My husband, who has been in remission for NHL for 12 months, was referred to a psychologist today. As well as being diagnosed with incurable cancer last year, he has been having shocking job stress for 2 years, so I'm not suprised. I've known this would happen for the last few months; I've been waiting for him to be ready to ask for help, but I still find myself upset by it. Is that weird? If I've known for ages that it's going to happen, why do I still feel shocked that it has? Has anyone else had this experience? Emily Wed, 25 Jul 2012 09:18:36 GMT little_stitcher 2012-07-25T09:18:36Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/A-significant-day/m-p/9299#M1029 I feel like sharing, and I know people on here will understand. My husband, who has been in remission for NHL for 12 months, was referred to a psychologist today. As well as being diagnosed with incurable cancer last year, he has been having shocking job stress for 2 years, so I'm not suprised. I've known this would happen for the last few months; I've been waiting for him to be ready to ask for help, but I still find myself upset by it. Is that weird? If I've known for ages that it's going to happen, why do I still feel shocked that it has? Has anyone else had this experience? Emily Wed, 25 Jul 2012 09:18:36 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/A-significant-day/m-p/9299#M1029 little_stitcher 2012-07-25T09:18:36Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/A-significant-day/m-p/9300#M1030 Hi Emily All sounds a bit human to me! I think no matter how much we kind of 'know' something there is always a part of us that hopes it is not going to happen. However it sounds like it is a good thing that he has asked for help. I imagine you probably feel sad that he is in such a difficult situation. Take care Rikki Wed, 25 Jul 2012 11:11:24 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/A-significant-day/m-p/9300#M1030 Rikki 2012-07-25T11:11:24Z