https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/280#M208 I am a newbie, first time posting. It took my slow brain and my slow computer a long time to get to this point. I do not know where to begin describing this horror, but, maybe someone can help me, and maybe I can help someone else. Right now I feel fear, anger, worry. We have good health care facilities (OU Medical Oklahoma city). But, we are told this is a high grade, aggressive type cancer. My wife Mary is still recovering from a complete hysterectomy. and trying to manage pain. She was suffering from a back and neck injury before this diagnosis, and her quality of life was not that great even then. Now it is even worse. I have a job, but her family is in Missouri, so I am her primary caregiver, and I cannot work full time anymore. I have never gone through anything like this with a loved one. And I love her more than anything else in my life. I am afraid I am going to lose her. It is hard to see her suffer. I know I must be strong for her, but that is not so easy. Mon, 09 Feb 2009 01:21:11 GMT scaredinoklahom 2009-02-09T01:21:11Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/280#M208 I am a newbie, first time posting. It took my slow brain and my slow computer a long time to get to this point. I do not know where to begin describing this horror, but, maybe someone can help me, and maybe I can help someone else. Right now I feel fear, anger, worry. We have good health care facilities (OU Medical Oklahoma city). But, we are told this is a high grade, aggressive type cancer. My wife Mary is still recovering from a complete hysterectomy. and trying to manage pain. She was suffering from a back and neck injury before this diagnosis, and her quality of life was not that great even then. Now it is even worse. I have a job, but her family is in Missouri, so I am her primary caregiver, and I cannot work full time anymore. I have never gone through anything like this with a loved one. And I love her more than anything else in my life. I am afraid I am going to lose her. It is hard to see her suffer. I know I must be strong for her, but that is not so easy. Mon, 09 Feb 2009 01:21:11 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/280#M208 scaredinoklahom 2009-02-09T01:21:11Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/281#M209 I have sent you a message.   Stay strong. I am sure that you will benefit from joining this forum. I find: a problem shared is a problem halved.   Mon, 09 Feb 2009 01:22:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/281#M209 bev 2009-02-09T01:22:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/282#M210 Hi scaredinocklahoma,Thanks for sharing this with us. If try to put myself in your place and your nickname makes a lot of sense.I hope you are able to find it helpful to share your feelings here. Best wishes Mon, 09 Feb 2009 01:23:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Wife-diagnosed-with-stage-4-ovarian-neck/m-p/282#M210 admin_one 2009-02-09T01:23:00Z