https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Anxiety/m-p/26287#M2467 <P>Hi Andrea, I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation.&nbsp; However, don't worry too much about 'staying strong' in front of your Mum.&nbsp; It's ok to express worry and concern- it's a worrying situation, and to be calm and composed all the time is probably not possible, unless you don't understand what's going on.&nbsp; You can still be a great support to your Mum while worried or upset (I used to joke that I was my husband's 'tearstained rock').&nbsp; The worst thing you can do is to worry about being worried! Good luck with everything, and remember to trust yourself- you are obviously doing the best you can (and I can see that from only a couple of messages).&nbsp;&nbsp; Sending love and hugs, Emily</P> Sun, 02 Jul 2017 11:06:01 GMT little_stitcher 2017-07-02T11:06:01Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Anxiety/m-p/26285#M2466 <P>Hello,</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I need to vent. &nbsp;I am experiencing extreme anxiety at the thought that I have to go back to work whilst desperately wanting to take care of my mother who has stage 4 cancer. &nbsp;I am trying to be so strong I front of her and all I want is to spend the time with her and it worry about financial pressure to keep the family afloat. &nbsp;My work has been extremely supportive and has allowed me to take time off through leave etc however the time has come to go back to work as I do not have any other choice but to keep an income coming in. &nbsp;I don't want to show any weakness in front of Mum as she is fighting this insidious disease with true resilience and strength. &nbsp; I worry if I said to her that I need to stay home that this will cause her further distress. &nbsp;Does anyone have any ideas how best to approach this? I am at a complete loss at to what to do.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Sun, 02 Jul 2017 06:47:45 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Anxiety/m-p/26285#M2466 Andrea44 2017-07-02T06:47:45Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Anxiety/m-p/26287#M2467 <P>Hi Andrea, I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation.&nbsp; However, don't worry too much about 'staying strong' in front of your Mum.&nbsp; It's ok to express worry and concern- it's a worrying situation, and to be calm and composed all the time is probably not possible, unless you don't understand what's going on.&nbsp; You can still be a great support to your Mum while worried or upset (I used to joke that I was my husband's 'tearstained rock').&nbsp; The worst thing you can do is to worry about being worried! Good luck with everything, and remember to trust yourself- you are obviously doing the best you can (and I can see that from only a couple of messages).&nbsp;&nbsp; Sending love and hugs, Emily</P> Sun, 02 Jul 2017 11:06:01 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Anxiety/m-p/26287#M2467 little_stitcher 2017-07-02T11:06:01Z