https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28845#M3411 <P>Kj,</P><P>Thanks for the kind words. God bless you!</P> Mon, 04 Feb 2019 16:43:21 GMT Peace 2019-02-04T16:43:21Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28831#M3407 <P>Hello all,&nbsp;</P><P>my dad 67 is dying of bile duct cancer that has metastasized to his stomach now. He has an unbearable pain lately. He is on morphine 24/7. What does that mean? Is he leaving us soon? Any comments? I’m going crazy here, I can’t imagine him dead. Where’s he gonna go <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":disappointed_face:">😞</span><span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":sad_but_relieved_face:">😥</span></P> Sat, 02 Feb 2019 07:15:21 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28831#M3407 Peace 2019-02-02T07:15:21Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28840#M3408 <P><SPAN>Peace </SPAN></P><P><SPAN>sorry toread that your Dad has reached this stage of his life,is he under palliative care,the medicos usually have an idea when a person is nearing the end ,have you asked them for there thoughts on your fathers life expectancy,I hope the morphine can help with his pain it is a very hard time to watch a loved one go through this ,my thoughts are with you both<SPAN class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp; </SPAN>at this very emotional and difficult time .</SPAN></P> Sun, 03 Feb 2019 23:56:35 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28840#M3408 kj 2019-02-03T23:56:35Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28841#M3409 <P>Thanks Kj, yes about one to two more months they say. Yes, the morphine is &nbsp;helping him but it makes him too dizzy and sleepy, he just can’t sit anymore. He sleeps most of the time <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":disappointed_face:">😞</span></P><P>For everyone out there I wanna say from what I saw my dad went through please don’t take chemo or radiotherapy second time if it doesn’t work the first time. It kills you not the cancer. I know this is a very hard decision to make.......I was trying to convince my dad to go under alternative treatments but he just couldn’t trust it.</P> Mon, 04 Feb 2019 03:17:18 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28841#M3409 Peace 2019-02-04T03:17:18Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28842#M3410 <P><SPAN>Peace </SPAN></P><P><SPAN>I am so glad the morphine is helping your Dad,very true it is a hard decision to face chemo and radiation after it has metastasised and returned,He is a very strong person knowing the side effects ,by choosing to have those treatments again ,hoping to gain more time with his loved ones ,it is a personal choice as you well know.Words can’t help you but try and stay strong ,and think about having a chat with your GP at this very trying time in your life if needed.</SPAN></P> Mon, 04 Feb 2019 07:57:29 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28842#M3410 kj 2019-02-04T07:57:29Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28845#M3411 <P>Kj,</P><P>Thanks for the kind words. God bless you!</P> Mon, 04 Feb 2019 16:43:21 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-dear-dad-is-dying/m-p/28845#M3411 Peace 2019-02-04T16:43:21Z