topic Re: I don’t know how to talk about it in Coping with a loved one's cancer

I don’t know how to talk about it

Letitia — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 00:49:30 GMT

Hi,

my my dad was just diagnosed with severe bowel cancer. It’s in his lymph nodes. 8 weeks ago he had no symptoms, no pain, nothing. Then all of a sudden 8 weeks later, he’s in the hospital at 3am because he can’t stand the pain and he’s planning his own funeral. I live 6 hours away. And the news has only just hit me, I’m not coping very well and I don’t know what to do. I also have just gotten a full time contract for a job after being unemployed for almost a year, so I can’t just up and leave.

Re: I don’t know how to talk about it

Budgie — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 01:12:25 GMT

Hi there Letitia,

I’m sorry your father is going through this disease & I’m sorry you’re not there with him. Does he have any family or friends with him at all?

It will be difficult for you being so far away but I can suggest you speak openly & honestly with him about everything. Talk with him as often as you feel the need, but also it wouldn’t hurt you to have some counseling as well. There's a Carer's telephone support group run at Cancer Council, that runs twice a month and is free of charge. You can find out more if you ring 1300 755 632. I’m sure they could offer you some support & advice.

I wish you all the best with everything.

Budgie

Re: I don’t know how to talk about it

Letitia — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 01:17:39 GMT

Thank you so much for your reply. He has my mum and one of my sisters. He isn’t a very open person, neither am I. (I guess that where I get it from). I am going to seek counselling when I can.