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outoflovetogive — Sat, 30 Jul 2022 13:55:56 GMT

We broke up - I have deleted this text so she won't ever find it.

Re: I was about to break up with my girlfriend and I just found out she might have cancer

Wife84 — Sat, 30 Jul 2022 09:02:10 GMT

I am surprised and disappointed that no one has replied to you before with compassion and empathy.

Having lived through a brain tumour and surgery myself I acknowledge that my behaviour was affected and I only processed the odds of a shortened life without facing certain death. I had to acknowledge to myself and my family that my behaviour was hard on them. I imagine the cancer has affected your partner's behaviour just as mine was affected and I am CERTAIN that cancer and uncertainty and fear have affected my husband's emotional regulation...

BUT you are human too and I affirm and applaud your honesty, your willingness to consider what is right and compassionate and most helpful. I know the world needs more givers like you.

I am sure you made your mistakes in the relationship but you still want to give what you can and setting boundaries is best for everyone involved.

I have experienced already how easily people show compassion to the cancer sufferer but how much less support there is for their carers.

I cheer you on with doing the best you can with what you know, for forgiving yourself and your partner whatever comes next. it is OK to be human.

I can offer love and prayers

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