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New to cancer

Rae75 — Thu, 22 Jun 2023 21:21:13 GMT

My Dad has just been diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer, he can only have chemo..my feelings are all over the place and I am trying to be strong..especially for my mum and family..is this ok..

Re: New to cancer

sch — Sat, 24 Jun 2023 01:26:28 GMT

Hi @Rae75

I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad and his diagnosis with cancer.

How is he going with chemo?

What stage cancer was your Dad diagnosed with?

It's normal to feel vulnerable and not yourself when these things happen.

I hope everything is ok. Keep us posted please.

-s

Re: New to cancer

Rae75 — Sat, 24 Jun 2023 03:52:17 GMT

Dad will start his chemo in a couple weeks..I'm trying my hardest to face my fear of losing my Dad..just want a quality of life for him..

Re: New to cancer

sch — Sat, 24 Jun 2023 04:17:49 GMT

Hugs to you.

I'm thinking of him and yourself.

Re: New to cancer

kj — Sat, 24 Jun 2023 11:35:45 GMT

Rae75

I’m very sorry to read of your father’s diagnosis,I hope the chemo can help.

Re: New to cancer

Grahame51 — Wed, 12 Jul 2023 12:17:05 GMT

I am so sorry to hear this.

My wife had her Whipple procedure for pancreatic cancer on the 24th of June.

Speaking with the surgeon and a theatre nurse we found out that if the blood vessels in that area are tangled up by the cancer cluster its impossible to operate. Chemo or radiation are the alternatives.

Hopefully the chemo will buy you dad some much needed time.

Grahame

Re: New to cancer

Gigi7 — Sun, 06 Aug 2023 12:51:02 GMT

I'm sorry you're going through this. My dad got diagnosed only a couple of months ago with pancreatic cancer too. Was a real shock. My emotions were/are all over the place too. He can only have chemo as well and has now discovered the cancer has spread to his liver. It's just something to take one day at a time and if you need to talk to someone make sure you reach out

Re: New to cancer

Rae75 — Mon, 07 Aug 2023 00:03:16 GMT

Thank you for your post..yes I am always reaching out to people for advice and how to cope with this disease within our family..

Re: New to cancer

Jj91 — Mon, 09 Oct 2023 20:31:18 GMT

Hello I just wanted to reach out I am feeling the same my mum has also been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and she has just started chemo, chemo is all they can do for my mum as the cancer is very aggressive, anyways I am so scared and I don’t know how to feel about this either, I don’t want to lose my mum aswell, I understand where you are coming from, I’m here if you need to reach out this is a really hard time and will definitely need support through this.

Re: New to cancer

Rae75 — Mon, 09 Oct 2023 21:10:56 GMT

Hi Jj, Thank you for reaching out, it means alot. Yes I am always here if you need to reach out..I am now finding every moment with Dad is precious, everytime I leave him to travel home I cry to the extent I got to pull over..being positive is the key..

Re: New to cancer

Jj91 — Mon, 09 Oct 2023 21:28:50 GMT

Hey rae75
That’s okay, we all need support throughout these hard times, yeah that’s what I’m finding aswell, except I’m in a different state to my mum so it’s really hard I’m moving my family to where my mum is, so I’ll be able to spend a lot more time with her. But I cry so much all the time and I know it’s okay to cry it’s just so hard. And yeah staying positive is definitely the key. Thank you I appreciate this

Re: New to cancer

Rae75 — Mon, 09 Oct 2023 22:40:35 GMT

Yes

I'm in the process at the moment going to live with Mum and Dad as I know if I don't I will regret it..I only live 2 hours away from them, so the transition will be easy..Take care.