https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Lung-Cancer/m-p/41469#M5041 <P>Hi Vicky,</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You're in a very difficult situation.&nbsp; I'm really sorry.&nbsp; It must be heart breaking to see your son deteriorating and trying to keep on a brave face for his children.&nbsp; You must be exhausted!&nbsp; Young children are hard work and I think our children often forget we're much older now looking after their children.&nbsp; As joyous as grand parenting is, be careful of your health right now and that of your husband's.&nbsp; I have not been in your situation but the mother of one of my grandson's developed stomach cancer during Covid.&nbsp; It was a terrible time and only her mother was allowed in the hospital with her as she died.&nbsp; It was a terrible shock to us all and even her son who was under 18 was not permitted to see her.&nbsp; From a distance we grieved and only 5 people were allowed at her funeral.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You're also isolated and away from you support network of family and friends.&nbsp; That's incredibly hard.</P><P>Just be gentle with yourself and your husband.&nbsp; Nothing can prepare you for the emotions of your situation.&nbsp; Eat well, sleep well and rest when you can.&nbsp; You both have to look after yourselves or you will not be able to help your son during this time of crisis.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I wish you both well and hope you can find some light in your darkest time. x</P> Wed, 13 Mar 2024 19:17:40 GMT Lampwork54 2024-03-13T19:17:40Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Lung-Cancer/m-p/41465#M5040 <P>Our son was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 2 years ago when he was 40 and had just become a father.&nbsp; Despite numerous visits, my husband and I relocated from our home to be nearer to him 8 months ago as he has no other family close by.&nbsp; As other treatments have ceased working he is now on palliative chemotherapy and we are caring for our grandchild 3 days a week.&nbsp; Is anyone else in a similar situation - grieving son's diagnosis, caring for toddler, living a long way from home and other family and friends?</P> Wed, 13 Mar 2024 02:12:11 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Lung-Cancer/m-p/41465#M5040 Vicky70 2024-03-13T02:12:11Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Lung-Cancer/m-p/41469#M5041 <P>Hi Vicky,</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You're in a very difficult situation.&nbsp; I'm really sorry.&nbsp; It must be heart breaking to see your son deteriorating and trying to keep on a brave face for his children.&nbsp; You must be exhausted!&nbsp; Young children are hard work and I think our children often forget we're much older now looking after their children.&nbsp; As joyous as grand parenting is, be careful of your health right now and that of your husband's.&nbsp; I have not been in your situation but the mother of one of my grandson's developed stomach cancer during Covid.&nbsp; It was a terrible time and only her mother was allowed in the hospital with her as she died.&nbsp; It was a terrible shock to us all and even her son who was under 18 was not permitted to see her.&nbsp; From a distance we grieved and only 5 people were allowed at her funeral.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You're also isolated and away from you support network of family and friends.&nbsp; That's incredibly hard.</P><P>Just be gentle with yourself and your husband.&nbsp; Nothing can prepare you for the emotions of your situation.&nbsp; Eat well, sleep well and rest when you can.&nbsp; You both have to look after yourselves or you will not be able to help your son during this time of crisis.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I wish you both well and hope you can find some light in your darkest time. x</P> Wed, 13 Mar 2024 19:17:40 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/Lung-Cancer/m-p/41469#M5041 Lampwork54 2024-03-13T19:17:40Z