topic Re: Sad and lost in Coping with a loved one's cancer

Sad and lost

Marley — Fri, 13 Oct 2023 11:33:33 GMT

Hi. My name is Marley and my husband has stage 3 non small cell lung cancer. He is not coping very well and sits all day with his head in his hands. He won't talk about it to me . He is having Chemo and Immunotherapy. Doctor says no cure, just more time. He gets out of breath very quickly and can't do anything anymore. I feel really sad that I can't help him. I just wanted to write it down and get it off my chest. I don't know what to expect in the coming weeks, but I will have to take it as it comes.

Re: Sad and lost

LindaG — Sun, 15 Oct 2023 12:56:48 GMT

Hi Marley, so sorry for this horrible diagnosis for your husband. I understand his grief and fear. Maybe he could talk to someone other than you? I know you just want to help him. Just do what you can for him. Ask him what he needs from you maybe. My husband was my support person when I had cancer and he was amazing. I think it’s hard for some men to open up about their feelings. I hope you have some support for you too. Love and prayers to you both🙏💕 Linda

Re: Sad and lost

Marley — Sun, 15 Oct 2023 13:16:35 GMT

Thankyou for your kind words Linda. I will be there for him and no matter what. Sometimes we don't need words. A gentle hand on his shoulder says a lot. It would be nice if he would share his feelings with me, maybe as time goes on he may open up. It's just hard to be so helpless and I just wanted to talk about it to people who have been there. Thanks again for your reply

Re: Sad and lost

CarerWife — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 10:32:02 GMT

Hi Marley.

How are you? Hope your husband is beating his cancer.

My husband has stage 4 cancer and is really struggling with all the treatments and radiotherapy.

Re: Sad and lost

Ashley_ccnsw — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 23:33:46 GMT

Hi Marley,

Thank you for coming on here and sharing your story. It's very brave and plenty of people here have similar experiences. It sounds like a really intense time for both of you. If you or your husband need any additional emotional support, please contact 13 11 20 if you need a debrief or even a referral to our counselling support services.

All the best

Ashley