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Carer of husband

Lindy77 — Sat, 05 Oct 2024 10:58:06 GMT

Hello

I am sharing because my husband was diagnosed 8 weeks ago with multiple Myeloma cancer.

We had marriage problems but now on the dexamethasone and pain meds he has become very moody angry irritable and emotionally abusive. I am beside myself. I can't leave him as he is unwell. The only rest I get is when he goes to hospital with high temp. My mental health is being affected.

He cannot see how he is treating me.

Can anyone suggest anything.?

We have been married 45yrs. I am seeing a counsellor. I am very teary on and off.

And it's every Saturday and Sunday.

I had to leave work to care for him.

Re: Carer of husband

Ashley_ccnsw — Tue, 08 Oct 2024 02:46:58 GMT

Hi Lindy77,

I'm so sorry to hear things have become so tense since the diagnosis and treatment. It all sounds so stressful for you. You are always welcome to call our 13 11 20 line to get some self-care resources, or to debrief with our oncology social workers. I'm so glad you're getting some counselling support too, but if you would like further support from community you can also ring that number and request to join our Carer Telephone Support where you can speak to others going through similar carer experiences.

I hope you get some great advice by others here online as well. Please take care of yourself.

Ashley

CCNSW