https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/134#M62 Hi gail, that's not good to hear. How long ago did your Mum get diagnosed?There are a few regular users here who have experience with Colon Cancer. Either firsthand or as carers. Most of the discussion for this you will find in the Bowel Cancer forums. I recommend you get in touch with Oldman (Kevin). He's a very helpful man Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:03:00 GMT mikey 2009-01-09T01:03:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/133#M61 hi my mum who is 76 has just been diagnosed with colon cancer and secondary liver cancer  i have no idea of what lies ahead maybe  there might be someone who has had a similar diagnosis  i feel quite scrambled Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:02:37 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/133#M61 gail 2009-01-09T01:02:37Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/134#M62 Hi gail, that's not good to hear. How long ago did your Mum get diagnosed?There are a few regular users here who have experience with Colon Cancer. Either firsthand or as carers. Most of the discussion for this you will find in the Bowel Cancer forums. I recommend you get in touch with Oldman (Kevin). He's a very helpful man Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:03:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/134#M62 mikey 2009-01-09T01:03:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/135#M63 Hi Mikey, My partner has metastic melanoma. I am having trouble understanding it, reading about it is very overwhelming I feel very scared of how I will cope as this progresses. I am very stressed on how to pay mortgage, bills etc.....  Howells Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:04:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/135#M63 howells 2009-01-09T01:04:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/136#M64 Hi howells, just sent you a message privately. If you're having difficuilty following the literature on metastatic melanomas I can really recommend giving the Cancer Council Helpline a ring. If you have any specific questions feel free to post them up here and I'm sure someone will be able to help you Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:05:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/136#M64 mikey 2009-01-09T01:05:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/137#M65 Hi - my diagnosis was a metastatic squamous cell carcinoma of unknown primary.  It decided to take up residence in the right inguinal gland.  I had surgery to remove the tumour, then a hysterectomy [trying to locate the primary] and almost 6 weeks radiotherapy.  Originally I was told that the outlook was not good and I probably would be lucky to make it to 5 years. I celebrate my 9th anniversary in July, and have had no further problems.  Take care Lyn    Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:06:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/137#M65 lsmith 2009-01-09T01:06:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/138#M66 Hi Lyn - my diagnosis was also a metastatic squamous cell carcinoma of unknown primary, although it is assumed the primary was in the lung and has now gone.  A secondary decided to take up residence in the trachea, wrapped around the vocal chords.  Surgery was not possible, so I had 6 weeks radiotherapy and 12 of chemo.  Originally I was told that the outlook was not good as the tumour was very aggressive. I finished teatment at end 2007 and scans show the tumour has been dramatically reduced - one oncologist said it had been killed but others do not go that far. I am now scared the tumour will come back very quickly (as it went very quickly), but there are no follow-ups scheduled for 6 months.  I am having trouble getting a positive attitude while all this is in my head.  I really want to get back to normal but find I'm very tired.Have others had similar experience?  How do I stop worrying about "how long I've got" so I can get on with life?  How do I know if it has gone altogether and what are the odds of that happening?Mark Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:07:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/138#M66 2009-01-09T01:07:00Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/139#M67 Hello Mark I  empathise with you regarding the uncertainty you face.  I can only share how I have coped Mark and hope that it brings you some comfort and hope. After a cancer diagnosis of any kind, we must accept that our lives are never going to be the old "normal" again.  We begin a new chapter in our life and create a new normal.   We must trust and believe in our medical team.  Having check ups in 6 months would indicate to me that the team are happy enough to see you again in 6 months, otherwise it would be sooner. Try not to let this disease define who you are Mark.  Go out there and live your life.  Set small achieveable goals, focus on staying well, dare to dream.  Martin Luther King Jnr. said "I have a dream" - we can share a dream too Mark, to beat this monster. Stay strong - Go Forward. Lyn Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:08:00 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Coping-with-a-loved-one-s-cancer/My-mum-has-colon-cancer-and-secondary-liver-cancer/m-p/139#M67 lsmith 2009-01-09T01:08:00Z