topic Re: New way of life? in Facing end of life

New way of life?

moxi — Fri, 13 Feb 2026 04:38:22 GMT

This is my story as short as possible.

Imagine going to the doctor with a bladder-infection, only to be told after a lengthy examination that you have incurable, deadly pancreatic cancer!

An operation would have been extremely difficult and messy because the cancer had spread into the blood vessels, which would have to be reconstructed. The surgeon explained that this operation would be dangerous even for a 50-year-old person, and it would not be recommended for me, an 81-year-old male. Another recommendation from an oncologist was heavy chemotherapy with a container of fluid attached to my body day and night, as well as daily radiation therapy, plus continuous scans and blood tests to check for effectiveness. This could take a more than a month depending on the outcome.

This extreme treatment could extend my life to some degree, from months perhaps even a year, all without any guaranty. Even if it was successful it still would only be a partial success as with all likelihood the cancer would reappear at one stage. If his treatment would be as pleasant as sitting in front of a tanning lamp in a solarium I could be considering it, of course in reality this treatment is not only stressful but extremely effecting my quality of life. I considered that managing 81 years of happy life is in general terms not a bad average and decided not to interfere with Ops and wait out my time and at the end get help to die peacefully.

I don't know how else I could express myself, perhaps someone could contact me with some hope.

Not so cheerfull Moxi

Re: New way of life?

Milo01 — Sat, 14 Feb 2026 01:59:23 GMT

Dear Moxi,

I am incredibly sorry to read your post.

You are facing something so incredibly difficult. And I know whatever decision you make for yourself will be the right one. The strength it takes to make it, isn’t something to over look. You are incredibly strong.

Please take care of yourself.

Milo01

Re: New way of life?

LindaG — Sun, 15 Feb 2026 13:05:58 GMT

Hi Moxi, that’s a hard diagnosis for you to deal with for sure. Yes, I think you are making a good decision for you and it’s so wonderful that you have had 81 years of life on this earth. So many people don’t make it to your age! I hope you have lots of support from family and friends. I pray for peace for you 🙏 ♥️ LindaG

Re: New way of life?

Miranda_ccnsw — Mon, 16 Feb 2026 23:22:47 GMT

Hi @moxi

I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It is such a devastating shock to receive news as huge as this. Facing the enormity of the treatment decisions can be overwhelming and I can hear that you have faced these with resilience, bravery and strength. Here is a resource that may be of help for you during this time. Please also know that you can reach out to our health professionals on 13 11 20 to discuss everything you are navigating and explore the support that is available to you.

Take care

Miranda