https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Expressive-Writing/My-heart-aches-for-everyone-around-me/m-p/38366#M70 <P>I know what you mean, Leeman. I'm new to this, diagnosed a month ago with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I don't know so much if people crumble, as such, or if they genuinely don't know what to do or say. I'm trying to think back to when I didn't have cancer and if someone had told me that they did. I've always been a very supportive person, overly so, in fact, so I would have shown a lot of empathy and I would also have been positive in my response. But then that's just me.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Perhaps people just view the word 'cancer' in different ways. To some it means a death sentence. To others a fight. I think in many ways we ignite their own fears when we tell them about what we're going through.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Regardless, I notice that your post was from back in January. I hope things are working out well for you.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Kind regards</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Colin</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Thu, 02 Sep 2021 09:56:05 GMT JohnDenning59 2021-09-02T09:56:05Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Expressive-Writing/My-heart-aches-for-everyone-around-me/m-p/36435#M69 <P>Is it just me or does everyone seem to crumble around you as soon as you tell them you have cancer&nbsp;</P> Fri, 15 Jan 2021 12:05:46 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Expressive-Writing/My-heart-aches-for-everyone-around-me/m-p/36435#M69 Leeman 2021-01-15T12:05:46Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Expressive-Writing/My-heart-aches-for-everyone-around-me/m-p/38366#M70 <P>I know what you mean, Leeman. I'm new to this, diagnosed a month ago with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I don't know so much if people crumble, as such, or if they genuinely don't know what to do or say. I'm trying to think back to when I didn't have cancer and if someone had told me that they did. I've always been a very supportive person, overly so, in fact, so I would have shown a lot of empathy and I would also have been positive in my response. But then that's just me.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Perhaps people just view the word 'cancer' in different ways. To some it means a death sentence. To others a fight. I think in many ways we ignite their own fears when we tell them about what we're going through.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Regardless, I notice that your post was from back in January. I hope things are working out well for you.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Kind regards</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Colin</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Thu, 02 Sep 2021 09:56:05 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Expressive-Writing/My-heart-aches-for-everyone-around-me/m-p/38366#M70 JohnDenning59 2021-09-02T09:56:05Z