https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/New-Start-here/Sex-after-total-pelvic-exenteration/m-p/41072#M7087 <P>Hi I was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage 3b in 2021, had chemo, radiation and brachytherapy and was told I was cancer free.&nbsp; !2 months later during a routine MRI&nbsp; &nbsp;it was found to have returned, this time I was given a total pelvic exenteration, and ended up with a colostomy and an urostomy.&nbsp; My husband of 20 years can't understand why I can't have intercourse and feels he has needs to be met.&nbsp; I am totally sorry for his situation but I am very thankful to be alive .&nbsp; He is 60 and I'm 58.&nbsp; I feel he blames me for the situation he is in,&nbsp; hence my cancer was HPV 16 related so he more than likely gave it to me.&nbsp; I have given him the opportunity to walk away from our marriage, he chose to stay.&nbsp; I guess I really just needed to put this out there.&nbsp; I have suggested we talk to a sex therapist but I want one that knows about cancer and what I've been through.&nbsp; Thank you for reading.</P> Thu, 21 Sep 2023 07:32:38 GMT Robyn2 2023-09-21T07:32:38Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/New-Start-here/Sex-after-total-pelvic-exenteration/m-p/41072#M7087 <P>Hi I was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage 3b in 2021, had chemo, radiation and brachytherapy and was told I was cancer free.&nbsp; !2 months later during a routine MRI&nbsp; &nbsp;it was found to have returned, this time I was given a total pelvic exenteration, and ended up with a colostomy and an urostomy.&nbsp; My husband of 20 years can't understand why I can't have intercourse and feels he has needs to be met.&nbsp; I am totally sorry for his situation but I am very thankful to be alive .&nbsp; He is 60 and I'm 58.&nbsp; I feel he blames me for the situation he is in,&nbsp; hence my cancer was HPV 16 related so he more than likely gave it to me.&nbsp; I have given him the opportunity to walk away from our marriage, he chose to stay.&nbsp; I guess I really just needed to put this out there.&nbsp; I have suggested we talk to a sex therapist but I want one that knows about cancer and what I've been through.&nbsp; Thank you for reading.</P> Thu, 21 Sep 2023 07:32:38 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/New-Start-here/Sex-after-total-pelvic-exenteration/m-p/41072#M7087 Robyn2 2023-09-21T07:32:38Z