topic Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner in Grief and loss

Lost my life partner

BJO67 — Wed, 16 Oct 2019 00:32:38 GMT

3 weeks ago I lost my beautiful partner Goran to pancreatic cancer.

He rode the pain rollercoaster for 3 years and 3 months. No person should have to endure what he went through.

Drs promised his death would be peaceful and no pain. This wasnt to be... .

Everything went downhill very quickly at the end.

I am one minute beside myself with grief and the next minute numb and in disbelief.

To go from caring for him 24/7 to being alone is terrible.

I know grief is different for everyone but when will this pain become bearable???

Re: Lost my life partner

Budgie — Wed, 16 Oct 2019 02:24:51 GMT

Hi BJO67,

I'm very sorry for your loss. There is a big void after loosing someone you're looking after 24/7.

You asked when will the pain become bearable.... My thought's on that may come across as a bit harsh, but, they're not meant to be...... I think you will only start to begin healing when you decide to get on with living. Unfortunately, when someone dies, the world keeps going. Everything keeps moving, & you need to as well. I'm not saying you can't spend time grieving, but don't dwell on the grief. Let it come & happen as it needs to, then move on.

You have my best wishes.

Budgie

LoRe: Lost my life partner

iloveyoudearly7 — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 16:59:58 GMT

Hi BjO67,

When you focus all that energy into one single purpose and your life enjoyful evolves around it - the sudden loss of that devoted mission is usually emphasize by the love that was lost. As budgie previous mentioned - time and routine are your friend. The pain will ease and attachment will succeed through to memories.

Let us know how your going?

Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

BJO67 — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 03:21:15 GMT

Thankyou.

I am trying to keep busy with the day to day things....

Im due to start back at work the first week of Nov. I have mixed feelings about that.

I work in a hospital and feel quite traumatised by hospitals at the moment.

Will just have to see how things go....

Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

iloveyoudearly7 — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 12:00:04 GMT

Hi BJO67,

Still a few days to go to get comfortable with the general idea, by any chance is a temporary change in department possible? Or perhaps working in a more professional format will provide a much needed distraction or comfort?

Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

BJO67 — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 23:57:58 GMT

Probably not unfortunately...

I just need to find a job outside of a hospital setting.

In the meantime ........

Thankyou for your messages.

Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

iloveyoudearly7 — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 16:06:48 GMT

Of course, please let us know?