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Lost my Father in July to NET and pancreatic cancer

wills — Sat, 14 Dec 2019 08:11:51 GMT

I lost my father to cancer in July of this year and I don’t know what to do any more. My mother is heart broken and I wish so badly it was me instead of him so they could grow old together. I cry on the inside so much. It was not suppose to be like this. I can barely function and I have so much anger and resentment of myself because of this. I thought he would survive because he was the strongest man in the world. And because of my denial I did not spend as much time with him as I should have. I can’t live with this guilt. I wish I could hug him so bad.

Re: Lost my Father in July to NET and pancreatic cancer

sch — Sat, 14 Dec 2019 20:35:16 GMT

Hi Wills,

I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad.

I am sure, that for your father, the most important thing, was that he knew that you loved him. I'm sure that was more of a comfort to him than anything else. That he knew he was loved.

Have you considered seeing someone to help you deal with the loss and grieving process?

-sch

Re: Lost my Father in July to NET and pancreatic cancer

wills — Wed, 18 Dec 2019 23:01:14 GMT

I don’t know. I close up when thinking about it but I need to help my mom. Is there any suggestion or referral you may know of?

Re: Lost my Father in July to NET and pancreatic cancer

BJO67 — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 01:00:03 GMT

Hang in there....

I know it absolutely rips your heart out.

Your mum wouldnt want you to feel like that though.

Sending you healing