https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Grief-and-loss/Absolutely-devastated/m-p/40417#M772 <P>Hi Wendy….., life is so hard sometimes that it’s incredible that we keep going and yet we do. &nbsp;I’m so sorry for your health and your losses. I lost my beautiful dad and mum 18 months apart so I understand the heartbreak. Then I got cancer and after all that had a heart attack. I’m just grateful for every day with my family now. I still miss my parents so much. I’m glad you have your husband and children supporting you. &nbsp;Sending you prayers and love. <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":folded_hands:">🙏</span><span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":two_hearts:">💕</span> LindaG&nbsp;</P> Fri, 03 Mar 2023 06:30:56 GMT LindaG 2023-03-03T06:30:56Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Grief-and-loss/Absolutely-devastated/m-p/40415#M771 <P>2016 I was diagnosed with Nodular Melanoma stage 3b. Skin graft and WLE to top of my head.</P><P>2017 33 nodules removed from side of neck, was in 1.</P><P>2017-2018 Blind Immunotherapy Trial....lots of side effects</P><P>End 2018 pneumonitis,&nbsp; then PE in lungs, then given Clexane injections&nbsp;</P><P>Jan 2019 massive bleed in abdomen.&nbsp; 3 ambulances,&nbsp; 5 hours worked on in emergency,&nbsp; flown by Medstar to Royal Adelaide Hospital.&nbsp; 1 wk intensive care, 3 weeks on ward. Later pneumonia,&nbsp; Organising pneumonia&nbsp;</P><P>2020 Diverticulitis flare, flown to RAH</P><P>2020 mum diagnosed with breast cancer recurrent.&nbsp; She'd had mastectomy and chemo 15 yrs ago. They put her on a harsh chemo tablet. Affected balance,&nbsp; memory, feet.&nbsp;</P><P>2021 I helped her and move into smaller home as they had a small farm.</P><P>2022 chemo caused falls, a mild stroke and heart attack symptoms.&nbsp; They stopped chemo. She went down hill so fast. Passed away 5 Dec 2022. Mum was 81</P><P>My dog who was my soul mate, I loved her so much, she just filled my heart with so much love. Bindi developed heart and liver problems. After many trips to vet 300km away from us, many medications,&nbsp; we had to finally put her to sleep 13 Feb 2023. My heart broke again that day.</P><P>2023 my 81 yr old father finally admitted he needed help to manage his pain. He'd kept quiet because of mums illness. After a couple of ED admissions, they discovered cancer everywhere.&nbsp;</P><P>On 25 Feb 2023 my father went to join my darling mother. He'd been on the roof cleaning his gutters 3 weeks ago.&nbsp;</P><P>My heart is utterly broken. How am I meant to survive all of this devastation?&nbsp;</P><P>I have 2 siblings, but my older sister has taken on everything and I feel alone and not needed.</P><P>I also have a wonderful husband and 2 grown children with families of their own. They've been supportive.&nbsp;</P> Tue, 28 Feb 2023 08:05:48 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Grief-and-loss/Absolutely-devastated/m-p/40415#M771 Wendywitchiepoo 2023-02-28T08:05:48Z https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Grief-and-loss/Absolutely-devastated/m-p/40417#M772 <P>Hi Wendy….., life is so hard sometimes that it’s incredible that we keep going and yet we do. &nbsp;I’m so sorry for your health and your losses. I lost my beautiful dad and mum 18 months apart so I understand the heartbreak. Then I got cancer and after all that had a heart attack. I’m just grateful for every day with my family now. I still miss my parents so much. I’m glad you have your husband and children supporting you. &nbsp;Sending you prayers and love. <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":folded_hands:">🙏</span><span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":two_hearts:">💕</span> LindaG&nbsp;</P> Fri, 03 Mar 2023 06:30:56 GMT https://onlinecommunity.cancercouncil.com.au/t5/Grief-and-loss/Absolutely-devastated/m-p/40417#M772 LindaG 2023-03-03T06:30:56Z