My mum is struggling with my diagnosis

Mels80 — Sat, 17 Jan 2026 15:32:53 GMT

Hi,

My name is Mel and I'm 45.

So nearly 12 months ago i was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. It was supposed to be a Hysterectomy and then some radio and that was it.

Unfortunately on the table I went into cardiac arrest, renal and liver failure, DIC and a coma for 3 weeks which they could not wake me up from. My mum and friends were with me all the way but it taken a toll on everyone.

Finally a month nearly later i woke up and during some time my left leg had become numb and also had severe foot drop. I didn't realise at that point i had been the sickest person in westmead icu.

12 months on I still can't feel my leg and the drop foot has not improved but I worked really hard with and learnt to walk again, it is a struggle every day with it and i wish it was easier.

I finished internal radiation in June 25, 3 months later what I thought was a blood clot was actually IV metastic lung cancer and cancer of the port aorta. That hit my mum very hard and I always try and be upbeat to make her feel like she can handle this.

My first scan after 3 treatments of chemo and immunotherapy they were really happy and my cancers had all shrunk. I see the oncologist on 20th Jan 26 to go through the next lot of scans.

During this time my mum has been my rock and i could not have left hospital without her.

I have just completed 6 cycles of chemo and immunotherapy and the plan is every 6 weeks for two years I will do immunotherapy.

A side effect of the immunotherapy is that it gsve me type 1 diabetes so that is something more we are dealing with.

My mum is really struggling to cope atm and she thinks I'm going to die. I have suggested volunteering which she is going to do for the RDA.

I did also suggest maybe seeing a counsellor but she said that won't change my outcome.

I am after any thoughts on how to get her through this and try and make her feel happier.

Thanks

Mel

Re: My mum is struggling with my diagnosis

Kaz1512 — Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:22:01 GMT

my Mum is struggling with my cancer, I'm Stage 4 breast and now it's been four years. I have to pretend I don't have it when she is around, my lifestyle has changed and she can't handle it. I don't feel like eating, I dont drink and my hair is thin. she wants the old me back, I sense she is angry at me and would rather spread time with people without cancer.

I also try and be upbeat with her and happy but it's not working. I also don't know what to do, it must be hard watching your children get cancer and there is no cure.

Hmmm I don't have any hints to make your Mum happy. She enjoys spreading time with my children, or going out in public. Sadly I don't make my Mum happy and I do hope you have more success than me.

Take care

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