hi, I'm just wondering if there are others out there that struggle to sleep at night. It seems like the rest of the world is able to roll over and sleep while I sit in the lounge room and my mind races, like after midnight my brain starts to process all the activities, the tears, the WAITING, the docs - mostly the ones that scratch their heads, what is going to happen, will they risk the operation... sleeping tablets, meditation. Anxiety. Fear. Impatience. Frustration. And all while everyone else sleeps. No help line to chat to, don't want to wake the sleeping. Depression washes over in waves. Scared.
I actually read your post last night, but didn't respond. Yes, I am often awake until late/early.
What I've found helped me deal with issues like these is writing them down.
Each night, try writing about what is going on in a journal. I found it helped
Maybe some meditation would be beneficial too?
Have you been talking to someone about all of this?
Hi your emotions feelings thoughts are very similar to mine at s4 3/4 hrs sleep at times a night so hard to switch off worried for my wife and kids mindful of what results I Well get in early Jan
Pain killers help sleeping pills only last 3/4 hrs but have found playing some mood/ sleep music very low gives the mind something to concentrate on and this does help
Staying positive having and kicking even small goals having a good support network family friends workmates is all a tremendous help and so good for mental and physical endurance
Good luck on your journey and may each and every day bring rich rewards for and to you
kind Regards Peter
I'm sorry you haven't received better news and that so much remains uncertain.
I met with a surgeon yesterday who made clear that he wouldn't be inclined to operate. I'm still waiting for more results including a PET and another biopsy, but the surgeon's attitude was so off-putting that even if the results from those indicate surgery is a possibility, I don't think I would be able to put my trust in him.
I hope you're able to put worry aside for at least a few days over Christmas.
In case the advice is somehow helpful, I really think distraction is important.
If there is that 'one thing' in your life .. whatever it may be … music ? Let's use that as an example. Let's say you always wished you had learned an instrument, but never did. You often think back longingly, wishing you'd have learned the flute or guitar in your 20s.
Do that now.
Sitting, staring into the shadows in the wee hours of the morning - well, sometimes that's inevitable.
If you find that 'one thing' and make judicious use of it as often as you can .. you might find that some of the distraction actually works. Even if you're still awake at 2 o'clock in the morning, at least you're deriving some kind of enjoyment and positive momentum in developing this skill that you always wished you had.
Sure, we all have cancer. But we're not dead yet. We don't have to CHOOSE a life lived in limbo, and if your future self could travel back in time, the day before your death, whenever in the future that may be, the first thing they'd probably say to you is "Don't fret ! Don't waste your time with agonising over this death anxiety stuff, make the most of it. Find some sort of pleasure or fun or productivity".
I don't care if it's knitting sweaters for miniature dogs, doing incredibly arcane and difficult crossword puzzles .. but if you can think of that one thing .. or even three things .. and lay in whatever supplies and planning is necessary to fulfil it ------ you may still be awake at 3am, but at least you'll have something to do.
And yeah .. even if you don't feel like doing it - give it a chance. Don't let cancer suck the remaining joy out of your life.
My great love and great distraction for years has been my garden. Unfortunately, the extreme water restrictions we're under now make it impossible to maintain that - something I was already feeling disappointed about before I knew I would need a distraction.
I will no doubt find another but it's hard to rustle one up on cue.
Good morning to you all. I've read through these posts and it's really a normal reaction and she of the advice is really good. CaptainAustralia is right with the distractions. I make glass beads but have not been able to make any since my diagnosis. I'm determined to start again once the weather cools. In the meantime I have knitted about 20 scarves from all the left over wool from years of knitting. Finished embroidery for some of my quilts too. I've also been challenging myself by cooking from an amazing patisserie book and feed my grandchildren the results when they come over after school.
I've said this in other posts but will repeat it for you. I had been on an antidepressant for years before my diagnosis. It was prescribed by a rheumatologist as I had osteoarthritis in my shoulder that did not respond to a cortisone injection. The drug is called Amiltryptolene and the brand name is Endep. It is used for nerve pain, has a side affect of sleepiness so only take at night and strengthens the bladder. It also has a side effect of thirst. It's very mild and my GP said she's had people on it for years and years into their 80's. When I was in hospital they increased my 25mg dose to 50mg. The best time of day for me is when I take that tablet at night and I know I will get 10 to 12 hours of deep sleep. I think there's nothing worse than those midnight hours of sleeplessness so I really appreciate it. I think all the sleep has also helped me to recover because it is good for the body to sleep. It's the only medication I am on. I hope that helps.
My garden has also been a great comfort. 43 degree days are not the best for the garden or for my bees but we survived it yesterday and had lovely rain overnight and cooler temperatures for a few days to come. I am growing sunflowers from seeds I collected from last year's sunflowers so that my bees have really good resources. Also lots of bee friendly flowers.
I hope your journey through this nightmare is a good one, even though there's nothing good about it. I hope you come through this and the news is good or as good as it can be. If you're not happy with your surgeon go to another one. You have to be confident in him/her completely. Please keep us updated on how things go for you. We're on this journey together and I have loved having this forum to discuss these issues within.
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