Hi I was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage 3b in 2021, had chemo, radiation and brachytherapy and was told I was cancer free. !2 months later during a routine MRI it was found to have returned, this time I was given a total pelvic exenteration, and ended up with a colostomy and an urostomy. My husband of 20 years can't understand why I can't have intercourse and feels he has needs to be met. I am totally sorry for his situation but I am very thankful to be alive . He is 60 and I'm 58. I feel he blames me for the situation he is in, hence my cancer was HPV 16 related so he more than likely gave it to me. I have given him the opportunity to walk away from our marriage, he chose to stay. I guess I really just needed to put this out there. I have suggested we talk to a sex therapist but I want one that knows about cancer and what I've been through. Thank you for reading.
