My name is Jessica and I am 27 years old. We recently found out that my dad has neck cancer, stage 4 and the cancer has also spread to his brain. Everyday, I feel so helpless and sad when I look at him. I wish I could do something to take his pain away. I can only imagine what he must be going through. When I look at him, I know he wants to cry but I pretend to be strong so that it doesn't make him weak. But I feel so fragile inside. I feel like someone has punched my gut and I can't breathe. Looking at your loved ones and knowing that they are in pain is the worst thing ever. We never had a family history of cancer so it's even more difficult because we don't really know what to do. His chemo is strating in two days and I am really scared because I have heard it leaves people really weak and makes them super sick. My dad was an athlete. He was always a healthy person and never fallen sick. He's so scared of needles and I can see it! Everytime we go for tests, he's so scared but he looks at me and says, "I am fine". I don't know what to do and I don't know why this happened to him. But this is such a tough time. I wish I knew how to cope with this better. We are so busy growing up and sometimes we fail to realise our parents are growing old too. 

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