My husband has been diagnosed with prostate cancer.  He is now starting chemotherapy and is going on his 3rd visit later this month.  This last Sunday was a terrible day.  He blew up at me for telling him that I didn't sound like that when he was exaggerating something that I said.  I have NEVER seen him like this.  He yelled so loudly and was sooo angry at me and kept saying I don't give a @*** as to what happens to him.  I tried to talk to him without yelling and he just kept screaming at me.  He told me to just leave, get in the car and go somewhere.  I ended up yelling back and he kept threatening me to block me out and we won't talk for the rest of the day.  I couldn't understand where this is coming from and meanwhile he screaming at me telling me, "what's wrong with you anyways, something is really wrong with you."  I finally got him to listen to lets just start over.  However, I can't stop thinking about how cruel he was to me for nothing.... I can't bring myself to be relaxed around him and I really dread this upcoming chemotherapy, for fear he will react like this again. 

I'm trying to act somewhat normal around him, but I find I don't want to be near him.  He keeps asking me if he did something wrong.  If I said yes,  You scared me and you were cruel to me it would open another can of worms and the argument would start again.  I just lie and say he's done nothing, but he knows I'm not as I was in the past.  He keeps trying to make me talk when he normally would want to be left alone and ignore me while watching tv.  Now he keeps asking me questions that I can't figure out why he would be asking them. 

Has anyone gone through this after the second round of chemo with their spouse??  I don't really what to do and I have NO one to talk to.  Any suggestions would be so helpful.  Thank you 

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