Feel like a dream, a bad dream

[gemyny]

My husband was diagnosed 4 months ago with Cancer of Unknown Primary (CUP). He went through a number of test to figure out the primary and they think it's the kidneys. They can't confirm as kidney cancer doesn't show well with PET scan. So currently the diagnosis is stage 4 kidney cancer and just started receiving immunotherapy. Doctor can't do any surgery as it has spread and risky.

I was a mess when we found out and gotten a bit better but feeling of lost/helpless still comes back now and then. We recently just become empty nesters and have been making plans to travel when this time come. Do you feel like just packing things up and spend time together making memories while it's possible because the prognosis is not good? I know it sounds careless but I want to remember him happy.

[Susana_CCNSW]

Hello gemyny,

Thank you very much for joining our community.

I am very sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. 

It is never easy to face a cancer diagnosis specially as it also affects all of those close to him. 

It is very brave of you to share your experience with others, at the same time I would like to say that the online community provides a safe space for you to share your thoughts and feelings. 

I am sure other community members will give you a word of support during this difficult time while also sharing their own personal experience with you.

If you are an Australian resident please call our information and support line on 131120, to see if any of our support services may be suitable for you.

Best wishes

Susana

Cancer council

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