Hi, my names Trudes. I’m new here. My dear Dad was diagnosed with terminal bowel and stomach cancer just over a year ago. He beat his odds given of 6 months but sadly he is now back in hospital as the tumour in his bowel has grown. He’s not been able to eat for a long time. He has a blocked bowel.
The issue is my Dad lives in UK and I really don’t know when I need to make the trip back. He’s been in hospital for the past 3 days and the palliative care nurses are giving him
meds by IV. Mum said he will likely go into hospice care after hospital
as he needs his meds via IV.
I’m so confused and sad about what to do and bless my stepmum as I think it’s hard for her to tell me he’s dying. I’ve been over twice since his diagnosis. I guess I’m just looking for advice as to whether hospice care is a sign for me heading over there or whether there may be more time. It’s so hard being so far away and having a family here
I need to look after also but I don’t want my Dad to die knowing Im not
there. Should I wait for more information. Who can I get info from at the hospital? Thanks.
I would also ask them for a contact number at the hospital or hospice for a Doctor who is treating your Dad have a chat and explain the predicament you are facing.
Thanks so much KJ that’s some really great advice. I will try and contact the treating doctor or palliative care team. It’s so hard to ask my step mum details about his time left outright without hurting her.
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