Trip to hospital turned into a nightmare

[Di1119]

October 31 2019, I had pains in the stomach, so went to my local Dr, who told me to go to the hospital, as she thinks it’s my appendix. 
4 hours later, I finally went, & was given pain medication, & don’t rally remember what happened for the next week. 
was told at 1 am on the 1-11-2019 that I was to have an emergency surgery that morning, for an obstruction in my bowels, surgery was just under 5 hours. 
most of that Week was just a blur.

on the 4-11-19 the Dr came in & told me that I had stage 4  bowel cancer, I turned 50 in Dec. 

[iloveyoudearly7]

Hello Di1119,

Welcome to our community, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds completely surreal, especially in such a small amount of time. Have you considered contacted the cancer council to find the best local doctor, who specialises in your particular type of cancer? That's what my family did for our mother and she gave her access to more treatment options than our original doctor ever did.

Do you have a treatment plan already in place or have discussed this with friends or family, just yet??

[Di1119]

Hi, yes I have been having chemo every 2 Weeks  since 17/12/2019

Yes I have spoken to my 3 adult children ( well not children as they are 28,24,& 21 ) 

as well as my sisters & father, they are all 4 me having chemo, , on the other hand my partner off 26 years doesn’t want me to, & is making it so hard for me as he tells people he just can’t look at me anymore, cause it hurts him.

[Di1119]

I just feel so alone all the time 

[iloveyoudearly7]

I know it may feel like your alone but you have your children, family and our community standing behind you every step of the way. (Getting chemo is definitely a good idea in my opinion but everyone is different in their wishes).

Your husband can't stand the thought of losing you and seeing is always an reminder of this risk. No matter how impossible it is. Has he spoken to any other family members regarding his feelings and to work through them or maybe a councilor? I believe he just needs time to process his feelings. Have you talk to him regarding this matter as well??