I am very grateful that I am now 5 years cancer free. I had breast cancer which resulted in a double mastectomy and a DIEP recon. I also had 4 rounds of chemo after my op. From these procedure’s I have extensive scaring which also often causes cramping and nerve pain plus sections of my hair haven’t grown back. I have no eyebrows and my eyelashes are minimal. I know this is just the fallout but what I am struggling with is my sense of self. I don’t like how I look now. I’ve been single ever since my diagnosis. I can’t seem to form relationships and I feel like I’m going to be alone forever. My question is, does anyone else feel this way? And do you have any suggestion of how to get past this? I want to meet someone but I feel like a fraud because my boobs have gone. I know it sounds ridiculous but it’s been my permanent mindset for a long time. I just want to know how to get past it. Any help would be appreciated.
Hi @Sue004s ,
Congratulations on your successful treatment. That's great news.
Sometimes life throws us some pretty crazy events, and sometimes the answer is to look at life a little differently.
I've had 2 major life changing health issues in my life.
Both meant that I had to, at least partially, redefine who I am and what was important to me.
I don't think you're a fraud and I don't think you are ridiculous.
Given that this has been going for some time, I would suggest seeking out some therapy session so they can help you deal with this and process it.
Good luck and let us know how you go.
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