Cancer diagnosis and divorce.

[Phill1]

Hey there Everyone,

 I’m new here and seeking some advice. 

My cancer journey started in 2021 with a diagnosis of bowel cancer that had progressed into my lymphatic system. I had an anterior resection that went horribly wrong, six months of chemotherapy, a DVT, staph, a thyroidectomy and now a tumour in my bladder and one in my lung. 

During all of this my marriage underwent a lot of strain (it was never very easy) and I now find myself navigating a divorce with someone who doesn’t have any empathy or willingness to accept our situation and is making it very difficult to proceed.

Honestly, I don’t think I have the capability of being able to handle this and I feel like just giving up on pursuing the settlement. My family tells me to not give up but I can’t seem to find the energy for both of these battles and I’m at the point where I will just let her do whatever she needs to do to make it go away.

I’ve been subjected to all sorts of horrible abuse and have left home but I’m fortunate enough to have family members that can put me up, so I don’t have to deal with being homeless as well.

Im feeling pretty overwhelmed right now and don’t know which way to go from here. My recovery is my priority but I’m really struggling and feeling like what’s the point.

 I’m not even sure why I’m posting this here but I’m desperate for this torment to end.

Thanks for listening 

[Adriana_CCNSW]

Hello Phill1,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing how you are feeling. Reading everything you’ve been carrying; it makes complete sense that you feel overwhelmed and exhausted. I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through.

Many people in this community will understand parts of what you’re describing, and it’s completely valid to want the torment to end, that’s a sign of just how much you’ve endured.

It’s really positive that you have family who can provide you with a safe place right now.

Please know that you can call the Cancer Council on 13 11 20 and speak to one of our health professionals about how you are feeling.

Take Care and warm regards, Adriana

[Phill1]

Thanks for your reply Adriana, it’s appreciated. I saw my psychologist yesterday and they were very helpful and are helping to guide me through this journey also.

I will reach out to your health professionals at some point when I feel it’s appropriate.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond .