Hi Allicat, I feel that you are a good friend to me and helping me out is good. I want to tell you something as I went to a Forum in December of last year and there was a woman there after the meeting who I spoke too afterwards she had advanced breast cancer and I got into trouble by the owned support group. I spoke to this woman and she didn't know anything about having cancer till she went to her GP and found out that hse had cancer. I was asked to not go to her support group in early March 2012. This is the first time I have been told off. I didn't know the future for her at all. I would like your thoughts on this please Glenys. 00 ... View more

Hi Silly, I had my surgery in 2010 - a lump out on the 4th of Aug and a mastectomy on the 13th of October 2010. It is a bit uncomfortable for me to type your name as Silly but that is what you want as is it your real name? I need to be socialable and need a lot of affection when something happens like this as to me it is terriable to have surgery and want all the support as we scatch each others back. I had about 20 people around me plus a personal friend when I went to threatre who were strangers and staff I think to me but it was so comforting to see them there. It took off the emotions before going into threatre and made me think of them more than going into threatre. The more the merrier I believe. Glenys 0 ... View more

Hi Allicat, It's good to have a friend like you as I have wanted to put it on line but can't find it and how to do it. I must say to you that I did take a photo of my two breasts before the surgery and now my son doesn't want to get it for me. He has it somewhere in his bed room. I would like to see it and to have my son share it with me as it would be comforting to me I think. I haven't seen it since the surgery and thats 17 months ago. These months have been hectic. You are right that if it got into a public place it wouldn't be right to do so. Glenys 00 ... View more

it is so hurtful when others are not in the point of viewing how they feel when they know and love you. It's true when the surgery is over they think it is over but it's not. It is so traumatic to go through this kind of experience. I have bitter feelings of the surgery as I had 2 lots of it. The main thing that gets to me is the mastectomy and the diagnoses and the lump out where I had hooked wire 3 mammograms and 4 injections in my breast. I am glad you are over the emotions 90% of them and have friends on line too. You must had the surgery a while back. I will listen to people who understand these type of experience as I have booked myself into 7 seccions at the Queen Vic Womens centre in town and they have good ones too. My story is on line. Thanks Glenys. 0 ... View more

I typed out a letter to my Uncle in Sydney and shared it with my son Stuart. Afterwards he said to me that I was driving him crazy by the emotions and started to cry for a while just before Deal or No Deal. He wants his old mother back so bad. He asked me about having me back as I was. Then he doesn't want to except these emotions as I dwell on the surgery too much. Will you help me with this please? Then I have been to no support group meetings hardly as I have just been to 4 support groups 2011 and the meeting the forum cancer hot line had in Melton last year. Then I have recently been to the BREACAN in the city just once. Chatting mainly about the mastectomy to them. All I am saying I have been neglected as I have to learn how to cope. It's not fare to have an experience like this one as I feel so bitter with the surgery. Help me please. Thanks Glenys. ... View more

Hi Allicat, It is good to hear from you as I thought you had disappeared. Yes I did go to BreaCan and was helped out by chatting about the mastectomy mainly. I arrived there at 1.30pm and they chatted to me till 2.40pm which was great. I was pointing out how in denial I was with going to threatre as it was a joke and the surgeon wasn't going to do it to me. This is how I felt just outside the threatre door. I wasn't screaming at all and I hugged the surgeon beforehand trying to let him know that I wasn't cross with him. I didn't cry when visiting them in there. I don't know how to chat to women who haven't had this type of surgery. It is hard to understand the other side of the coin after a diagnoses like this. Would you give me some hints not to say this and that when other women haven't had this type of surgery as I am new at this game. We all scratch each others back I feel. When other women who haven't had this type of surgery there are things we must not say to them. Glenys 000. Thanks Allicat. ... View more

Hi Deb, My story is on line and I am a survivor with breast cancer. The first thing I said to myself when reading your post is HELL. You must be scared and not wanting to die with this type of cancer. I don't know what to say to you also. Wombat - he will help you as I haven't been in this situation but it was his wife that had bowl cancer the same as you. We are all in different situations but I feel for you as I want too. Sending 000 hugs your way. Glenys. ... View more

Hi Allicat, I don't know if you are around still as I haven't seen any posts from you. You are wonderful to share the breacan website with me as I went in there today. I arrived at 1.30pm and they gave me an hour of advice and was appreciated also. Also I got a CD to listen too and I have listened to it twice tonight. It was good so thanks again as you are wonderful to share it with me. Glenys 0. ... View more

Hi Wombat, It is human to grieve as your soul mate passed away just before Christmas 2011 so your time at this time in your life must be so sad. I have told you I feel for you as it is just a short time so it is not wrong for you to feel the way you do to stay on passed memories. It is so comforting and natural to do so. I think there would be people on this website that would love to give you a hug to comfort you. Marriage with me is so vital especially after 38 years. I haven't lost my husband so really I don't know what it would feel like when I would lose him. Glenys 00 ... View more