Hi Allicat, I spoke to Sandra in Breacan last Wednesday and she has had 2 mastectomies and 2 recontructions and I asked her was she still hurt about it and she said yes after 12 years. That tells me that I won't get over it till I pass away. I rang my mother's brother last night to offer him this book that you purchased and he said to me that he is not interested, it's negative, that I have to ignore the experience, so why would I have to do this to ignore the experience? People feel that when the surgery is over the problem is over with breast cancer. This to me is not so. To ignore the experience is like throwing away the breast that was on you and personally like throwing a baby in the river. It's harder for people who have had cancer for them to ignore it as it is easier to try to except it. Ignoring it is harder as it is pushing away the breast that was with you - so precious as it was part of you. I am having trouble excepting it. Glenys. 00 ... View more

Hi Allicat, It takes 10 years to become invasive cancer. It starts out to be small till it becomes invasive over 10 years. Glenys 00 ... View more

Hi Allicat, Breacan has been busy with making up songs and they are good. It's a new way of living The only way is up You can't ignore the experience and hurt They say time heals But it takes more than that It's a new way of living (1st verse in the song) Support from my friends They may not know what to say It's unthinkable to them But just that phone call That card in the mail A simple hug says it all (2nd verse in the song) Chorus I need my space Tranquility as I learn to cope with my pain My peace is like a garden where I will grow As the seasons come and go The song is a good one with a good tune to it. Glenys 00 ... View more

Hi Wombat, Wombat you are having a BAD time. I haven't lost my marriage partner so I wouldn't know what it would be like and how lost I would be if I was in this situation. I sympathise with you as the nightmare must be so dreadful and you would miss your wife so bad. I think you have 3 children too and they must miss their mother. I feel nervous with the message you put here and the way you put it as I am not looking forward to have my Colin pass away. I love him so much after nearly 40 years together. When this happens I would only have my son as I am isolated from them in WA. The isolation of not having my sisters and brother around me every day is in some what hard to handle sometimes. Glenys 00 ... View more

Hi Allicat, WOW what did you think of the first chapter of the book and the very first page of it. I thought it was comforting to me to read the 1st chapter and the very first words of it. It brings out that we can't ignore the cancer experience. read page 93 in the book. Its a shame that u can't get to sleep so maybe you are thirsty so drink a cup of water as that is what I do. I go to sleep when I do that. Glenys. 00 ... View more

Hi Beautylee, There is a book called after cancer a guide to your new life and it's helped me a lot. I recieved it from Breacan as there isn't a lot around to purchase. Glenys.0 ... View more

Hi Allicat, I have been going to sleep earlier now and that is around midnight. It is only sometimes I keep awake till 3 - 4am. I hope you feel OK now too. Please read the first chapter of the book and it will help you a lot. Glenys. ... View more

Hi Allicat, Good I am glad you got this book I suggested to you. Please read the first page of it in the first chapter and you'll be surprised with what it says to you. I have got up to the 5th chapter in the book and it's been good. Around the 92 page of the book it tells you why you had cancer. Glenys 0 ... View more

Hi Allicat, I want to make a suggestion to you if I may. I told you that I have been reading a book and it has helped me a lot. In the first chapter of the book it says that we don't ignore the experiences of our cancer history. How can we? We adapt to it. This book is called "After Cancer a guide to your new life" and it has helped me out a lot. I suggest that you read it as it brings out the emotions that are normal. Glenys ... View more

Hi Allicat, I feel that you are having a bad time with yourself so let me sympathize with you. Ask your doctor about it if you can stop the medication. Sorry you were crying and didn't go to work as you would have been so upset. I hope the counsellor helps you a lot. Glenys 0 ... View more