Hi dazza2010 I go along with wombat4 as he is so good. I don't know what to say to you as I know you will hug her and not finish doing it. It must be so hard to be in a sensitive situation like this one. Give a lot of affection as wombat said & you won't regret it ever. How old are your children as they are young. People on the web site would love to give you & family a hug too. Glenys 000 ... View more

Hi Stitch How are you if you see the post from me after the 10 hours surgery? I hope things went good for you too. Maybe you are still in hospital for 3 weeks. Glenys ... View more

Dear Allicat, It does seem weird as I seem to be turned away some how. The person who I told you about not having advanced breast cancer where I went to the forum last year she was told in March 2012 that she had breast cancer. All I said to her that she will know when she got it and I was told off by Leanne in melton. I am new at this game and being diagnosed in the middle or late May 2010 so that isn't quite 2 years yet. I like the spa and I get into it for an hour. I went swimming with my cousin Steve over Easter and it is good that we go as it does make us feel more relaxed. I am getting to sleep just after midnight and sleeping in also. What would you feel if we met and we went swimming together? That to me would be great. If you live in Ringwood that is where my sister-in-laws are on my husband's side of the family. Glenys 0 ... View more

Hi Everyone, These comments are good with anyone having cancer as they don't like the word at any door. The are clueless and don't want any advice or help beforehand. They will understand when this happens to them and they will N E E D help then. They will be standing up shouting for help. Also are so chashed with the word cancer that they think it is not for them. Shielding themselves is for them and it's mostly that others don't chat. Boy if I was in that situation I would find some advice to seek help beforehand - would I? When I examed myself on my r breast near my arm pit and found that it was hard lump as hard as a pen and didn't like it I was curious to see the Doctor ASAP. These emotions are deeper than we think as Breascan rang me up to advice me not to go into the meeting tonight. This tells me a lot of the emotions with cancer. My son answered the phone so I will ring them up tomorrow. Glenys. 00 ... View more

Hi Allicat, My mother has never told me how she felt with the sergury that I have had in 2010. All she has said that I am OK so I don't know how she has felt with me have the ops. My story is on line. All she wanted to do is read books & watch TV with the time in June/July I had with her in WA last year for a month. She paid my fair to go over and back. Also she has given us a lot of money but I don't need this money I need her mainly. She isn't chatting to me as she knows how busy they are over there and she is more loyal to them than me as she is cross with me. Glenys. ... View more

Hi Allicat, I know that my sisters are "busy" and I don't like this word busy. It tells me that they haven't got time for us here in Victoria. A phone call is too much a month to get on the phone and chat for half-an-hour and I am not a fly on their wall. It has been this for the last 38 years. I really ask myself what have I done to deserve this? I say them them that it's a two-way-street to have commnication. They feel that I am telling them off by saying this. It is not fare to have to live interstate from WA and have the experience like this and have them not commnicate with us here in Vic. I just fell in love with a man from Vic and left them all behind by walking away from them. I met Colin in Canberra and we began to write to each other over 18 months. Colin and I were only together for 11 weeks, and then only writing to each other for 18 months. The marriage has lasted for 38 years. Glenys 0 ... View more

Hi Allicat, No I am not having trouble any more as I go to sleep now around midnight which is more early now than 4am. Last night I slept for 11 hours as I went to sleep around midnight and slept till midday. I think I am catching up with the hours I didn't have and this is good. About going swimming I have been down there twice. My husband and I have 3 lots of junk mail to do each week that brings in around $100 so that is good. We have been out the last 3 days and I am rather tired today. Breacan has rang me and I can't go in there today as my diagnoses in 2010 is too recent they told my son. Glenys 0 ... View more

Hi Allicat, I will be going into Breacan as I have booked myself into 7 sessions. The first one is on Tuesday at 5.30pm. Have a look at their programe as it is good. Glenys 00 ... View more

Hi Allicat, I have been married for 38 years and been over in Vic for all that time. When you live so far away from them the bonding grows weak. Then they work a full time job and have no time for us as a family here as I have a husband and son. My sister Beth is a matron of a hospital, Rhonda is a school principal, Julie works at a kids centre and visit parents & it is all full time jobs. They haven't got time for me at all. Julie has 3 children all married, Rhonda has 3 & one married, Beth has 4 & hers all home. Rhonda pays someone to do her housework. Janet works at a police station & has 3 kids - 2 married. Janet isn't married though. I went to WA last year feeling hurt over the surgeryas that time it would have been around 7 months since the surgery. I chatted to them about it and they didn't like it. Mum said shut up 3 times to me. Glenys ... View more

Hi Allicat, Are you in Victoria if you are what support group do you go too? I have had early breast cancer that was in stage 1 and didn't need kemo or radiation. I take a hormone tablet of 1 mill one a day. My story is on line if you want to have a peep. When I spoke to this person it was the first meeting I had gone too. I don't know the ends and outs to it all. I was disappointed that she told me off and then told me not to come to the support group in Melton. It's 17 months now for me since I had surgery and it takes 12 - 14 months to get over having a lump out & mastectomy. I had 2 lots of surgery. There is good meetings at QVWC coming up Allicat. Thanks Glenys 000 ... View more