@Hannah30, your feelings are quite understandable, I've been riding that "wild roller coaster" as well. You often can't help think that everything is out of control around you and you're powerless to do anything about it. A while back I met that head on by going to the cemetary, picking out a plot and paying for it. Also organised the headstone. That was "Plan B", 'Plan A" was to live happily ever after. It made a big difference psychologically, I was no longer just a helpless victim. And then there's the project to build my house. At times it didn't seem I'd live to see it completed. But the plan in my mind shows how it will all look when finished. You'll be only too well aware, having a rural block is a full on job. There's a lot I've had to abandon but I'm still picking up little bits. I try to focus on what I can do, not on what I can't. Everyone's circumstances are different. We all have to find our own way through as best we can. There'll be good days and there'll be bad, I've had them all. Just gone through three consecutive bad days, and hoping today is not going to be a fourth. But it is what it is. The main thing, I believe, is to set plans or goals (or whatever else you might call them). Doesn't matter how many. The future is uncertain, there are many possibilities. And don't hesitate to reach out for help. The Cancer Council is a tremendous asset, just a phone call or even a face to face. They have helped me a lot. There's also this forum where you can see how others are dealing with their issues, and where you will get support. Remember, you're not only a cancer patient. You're a whole human being, with history, memories and experiences, with likes and dislikes, with strengths and weaknesses, with family and friends who are part of your life, and for whom you are a part of theirs. That's all still there. It's something to hold onto. My headstone has this carved into it: Carpe diem Get the facts Get real Deal with it
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