Oh my goodness, where does the time go. Just another quick post to say I hope you and your boys are doing well. Hopefully, each day the sun just feels a little warmer and the future looks a little brighter. Yes, it is a slow, difficult process, but at least you and your boys are heading in the right direction. Bless you and your boys. May the coming days wrap you and your boys with as much love, comfort, and peace as possible. John ... View more

Hello, Jill. How are you doing? How are your boys doing? I hope this post finds you having one of those "good" days as your journey continues. Enjoy the sun, smile when you can, just continue to breathe, taking it one moment ... one day ... at a time. There is a bright, warm, beautiful light at the end of the tunnel, and you are getting closer and closer to that light. Take sweet care. Bless you and your boys. John ... View more

ness: My deepest condolences on your loss. I think one of the unintended/unexpected challenges that you, Jill, and others who have suffered loss of a loved one is the seeming insensitivity of others - many times those who have been friends in the past. Maybe they don't mean anything by it. It could very well be that they do not want to deal with such bad things - who wants to think about death - so many times they just avoid you, not realizing how they may be hurting you. Or they expect you to "just get over it." There is no right or wrong here. Everyone has their own timetable, and there is nothing like communicating with those who are experiencing what you are experiencing to get some support and energy to get through the day. Good will and blessings to you. The days will get better as time goes by. John ... View more

Jill, It only has been 6 weeks ... of course it is still too painful. The numbness of the "shock" is probably starting to wear off (much like anesthesia wearing off) so you feel the pain more and more ... that is why the days seem harder and harder. But, the pain will eventually begin to subside, the days will get better, the sun will feel warmer, and you will go on with life. One day at a time, Jill. You are good, you are strong, you will pass through these days and enter a good future. Just keep breathing ... John ... View more

Hello, Jill. It has been a little while since you posted. Just a quick note to say that someone is thinking of you and your family and wishing you well. I'm sure the "haze" continues ... with good days and bad days. As time goes on, gradually the good days will far outnumber the other days more and more. In the meantime, Jill, just keep breathing ... one moment at a time ... just keep breathing ... Be well! John ... View more

Hello, Jill. From your experience with the two friends who ran and from some of the comments, one of the more unpleasant realities of what you are enduring is on display. When confronted with pain and ugly reality, many "friends" run away. There are always exceptions, but in situations such as you are facing, as a general rule, it seems that the closer someone was to you before the life-changing event, the lesser they tend to be there for you with support. Who knows why? Maybe you are a reminder of what could happen to them ... somehow you scare them perhaps. The key is not to take it personally even though the rejection hurts. I suppose the best to do is feel for them that they cannot show some strength of friendship when needed most. I have been unemployed for 18 months here in the good old U.S.A., and one of the more painful things I have had to deal with is the fact that many people that I saw nearly everyday for 10 years could not even reach out to me after my job was gone. In fact the one who has been the most supportive of my is someone I met AFTER I lost my job. Now, I in no way am comparing my challenges to what you are enduring Jill. In fact knowing that what you are enduring must be so much more painful than what I am going through makes me feel for you and your family even more. May you be blessed with an overflowing abundance of love, courage, comfort and strength from many sources around you! Please forgive this rather long post. As always, Jill, just keep breathing ... and eventually the sun will feel a little warmer each day ... and the breathing will get easier and stronger each day ... John ... View more

Jill, During these "unique" days of your drastically-changed journey through life, I hope you are doing well - as well as possible. May you be given as much comfort and love as possible ... you already have an amazing amount of courage and resolve. Just keep breathing ... and living ... John ... View more

Jill, Words feel so inadequate at times like these ... my deepest condolences to your, your sons, and the rest of your family on the passing of the love of your life. ... the heartaches will last for a while, but as you note - he is not hurting anymore and there is some deep comfort in that. Thank you so much for your posts - it helps you but you also help others tremendously by sharing yourself so freely with seeming "strangers", probably some of whom are dealing with crises based on something other than cancer. Thank you and bless you. ... View more

Mrs. Elton: Great to hear about the great news. Your reaction? Entirely normal. What you and your family is going through -as you know so well - is hell on earth, so there is no right or wrong, and whatever you feel however you react, is normal. Keep going ... keep breathing ... ... View more

Mrs. Elton: How are you doing today? I hope you are doing as well as is possible as you deal with what you have to deal with. I just wanted to check in, sal hello, and let you know someone is thinking of you and your family. ... View more