Hey Deb, I am 25, I was diagnosed in May 2011 with cervical cancer. I can relate to what you are saying with the ‘I'm sorry, stay positive and everything will be ok’ talk from certain friends when at the time we had no idea how extensive the cancer may be. I didn’t want to shut my closest friends out of my life because they didn’t know how to talk to me so I simply told them to stop saying that because they base that on no facts and it doesn’t make me feel better, in fact it makes me feel worse. Even my dad would try tell me it will be ok but it was because he was so scared and upset himself he just didn’t want to see me suffer. Anyway since I told everyone how I really feel when they say that rubbish they don’t do it anymore. It doesn’t mean you are negative or paranoid it just means you are realistic. You still appreciate life and the time you have together and if you didn’t be realistic about the situation then you will find it harder I think to cope. Enjoy your time. ... View more