Thanks so much for your reply..
Takes an effort to hold it all together, as I would be only too aware of so many having to do that on here as well! You know when you have those "What the" days?? That was me....talking to a complete stranger is sometimes a whole lot easier then picking up the phone to call a loved one....
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Thanks for your comment...I don't think I am brave at all but thankyou...I am not big on asking for support, I have always been the one giving it. When my husband had cancer, I got on my soap box to talk about his cancer to anyone who wanted to know and I became emotionally detached, I think so that I could hide behind the talk and all the know..I don't feel as invincible at themoment and I do and will be more conscious of my own health..
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No, you are not paranoid and no not everyone survives cancer and those that do like in my husbands case, get through each test every three months just to make sure it has not reared its ugly head again! I have seen how cancer takes away a loved one, not once but twicein my immediate family and it is as if that once they are no longer in your life, they are forgotten by everyone but those who mourn them the same date every year, after year, after year....
My sister Clare was 34 (35 in the November) when she was diagnosed with bowel cancer in October 1995. Clare had major surgery to remove a large cancerous part of her bowel. All was going well, with the cancer not progressing to any other organs but the Dr's did more follow up tests and found what they said was a lump on her liver...this they found out (or so they thought at the time) was old scar tissue. I remember my sister and my mother getting ready to go out for some christmas shopping when a call came through that a mistake had been made and what was thought to be scar tissue was in fact cancer of the liver and by that time, it had grown and had taken over pretty much both sides of the liver...surgery was ruled out and my sister refused treatment, instead opting for a more healthy way of living with meditation to try and prolong the death sentence she had been given.
During the shock on the family at this time, another sister Teresa was diagnosed with lung cancer in early January of 1996. Pockets of tumors were also found in her brain. Being a pallative care nurse, Teresa opted not to have surgery but had treatment to try and shrink the cancer that we again knew was going to take yet another sisters life...this was the harsh reality. I guess the other real reality was, who was going to die first? On the 13th March 1996, after ten short weeks of trying to fit in a lifetime of 'grow old years'Teresa lost her battle...a month after she turned 34.
With the loss and mourning of one, we then had to put all our thoughts onto the other who knew her time was going to be up, just a question of when....the life long dreams were no more....this was reality! Clare thought a courageous battle for 41/2 years but refused to give in....I think she chose the date that she was going to die. On the 13th March 2000, four years to the day of Teresa's death, Clare gave up and gave in...
To this day, I miss them and I wonder with the technology today, would they have survived?
Again Cancer does take.....
I hope you don't mind me writing this down...in truth, I have never sat and wrote the words about my sisters in this length before. You are courageous but never paranoid. Even after so many years, I still hold onto the precious memories...a certain song that will make me cry, a son who looks so much like his mother...I hope that when your time does come, there will be those who will have, make and hold onto those special memories of you!
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I recently put up my first posting on this site about having two sisters (who have sinced passed away) and a husband diagnosed with cancer. Apologies if it was long winded but I am never sure what I should write on these sites, so of course I write from my heart.
I recently found a lump and change in my breast, which I guess at the moment I am trying my utmost to ignore the best I can! The fear is, what if.....
A tiny bit of paranoia is there and already I can hear possible answers to this.....to get it checked out just to be sure or it is probably nothing but better to know now!
Since my husbands cancer diagnosis, surgery (he refused any other treatment), depression and almost marriage breakdown, I have been the one holding up the structure of the family! I guess the real fear is, who will hold up the structure for me??
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.