My wife has been diagnosed with bowel cancer and has an operation next week but at this time I am being used as a punchbag. Nothing I do is right we had a fairly volatile marriage before this happened and I am trying so hard not to lose my rag with her but she shouts screams and seears at me. She critiques everyone her best friend. If she sends a text and she doesn’t get a response straight away it’s a big problem. She loses it with me every couple of days. I talk to her quietly and try to make her see sense but then I get accused of trying to control her. Today I made a joke with her and said would you be happier to divorce me ? It was a joke but not one I perhaps should have said. She is one angry lady. I don’t know how much more I can take. I am really trying to be her best friend and husband. I send her electronic cards every day m. I have been to every appointment with her and sorted her surgeon out and hospital for the operation helped with the date. Organised a holiday before and after. Am I the mean one? I have even said to her that I really understand what she is going through. And I do get it. Tell me what else I can do ?
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.