Hi Bella Thank you so very much for joining up to speak to me. Your personal story is the first time I have ever heard directly from another woman in this situation so it means the world to me at this time. I read a book called ' pretty is what changes' which was both confronting and comforting to me. I change my mind sometimes about which direction to take, it is hard to get good advice as family can be too close as are friends. The doctors "suggest" the operation is the best defense, but I am not even sure I carry the gene, so the operation seems so drastic. On the other hand it eliminates the annual worries of screening and the risks involved in waiting to see if the cancer will ever show up. I am sure you can relate to these thoughts? I am going to speak to an oncologist nurse/counsellor soon to get all the facts I can. I consider how you must be feeling now with having made the decision to have the operation and I send you all my best wishes for the surgery and recovery. I can see you have experienced breast cancer a lot and I hope your sister will be okay. It is a great comfort to have met you ( even online) and I would love to stay in contact with you if that is okay and as you feel up to chatting. I have a daughter and she is my biggest consideration in all this, I too do not want to miss a day with her. Thanking you again kind regards Miss Lane xo P.s. i wonder how old you are? I am 34 ... View more

Dear Jodielee12 Thank you so much for your thoughts. i am very humbled at hearing everyones stories. I wish you the very best in your treatment. I am wondering when you say ' is there a reason why I developed the same sort of cancer' do you mean is it familial? At times I believe that I am in good hands at the breast clinic and that the screening process is adequate. However, I wonder if I just had the operation I would not have to worry. I feel terrible that I do not have cancer, and yet, all you wonderful people going through treatment are so supportive. There are only 2000 women in Australia in my situation and I have never had the chance to talk. I thank you from the bottom of my heart Miss Lane ... View more

Hey Barbe Thanks for sharing that info with me, you are awesome! I am now confused about the testing thing too. I will have to follow it up with the clinic. They asked me to get my auntie to donate blood for testing against, but she did not do it. They said all they could offer me was the prophylactic double mastectomy, or regular screening. I wonder why this information is so different between physicians? I am so happy for your good health after such a difficult time. Cheers Miss Lane ... View more

Dear Mrs Elton I am sorry to hear about your husband and hope he will be okay. Thank you for your reply, I am stunned to have one so soon. I`m sure that your sister in-law`s operation will be successful. If she does want a chat that would be wonderful, but I also recognise the private nature of this situation and so would not be offended if she did not wish to. Thank you for your kind words, Miss Lane ... View more