I'm writing today as I think it's easier sometimes to cope. I got told a month ago that there is nothing more the doctors can do so I'm now classed as in curable. I'm undergoing Pallative treatment as my cancer has now spread to my liver, bones and lungs. How do you fit a lifetime into a few months? I have only had a few meltdowns as I'm actually angry that my life is going to end. I'm still young and have so much to look forward too. I look at my children and of course you do the whole 'Why do I have to be so lucky'. We have planned a cruise in a month so I'm now hoping I can at least have a relaxing time with my family and not be in too much pain. I will be able to put my feet up and enjoy the smiles on my families faces. I will live every moment with happy memories and as they say 'life is precious'.
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So sorry Mrs Murt, I hope you at least get to do a few of the things you have always wanted to do. Stay strong. Sorry don't know what else to say. 😞
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I don't know what to say either, but I'm sending you big cyber hugs. love Emily
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Not sure what is the right thing to say - thinking of you Do what you can from your bucket list, laugh list, cry lots and fill your life with wonderful memories
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Sometimes life is just so unfair. Totally shitty. hugs and prayers.
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Thanks for the thoughts. I have to go to Brisbane next week for a week of Radiotherapy so the family is coming this time and we are going to do lots of fun stuff. My 13 year old cried at first as she is so dedicated with her schoolwork that she freaked out. Her teachers are all fantastic and just want her to have a great time. I have to do a list of fun things to do and I've been told Seaworld is top of the list and I want to go to Outback Spectacular. I just have to now find the energy to pack the bags.
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After finding out that hubbys new brain tumours were inoperable we decided to get the kids away for a week. School work is already suffering for our 15 year old but school has been very supportive. We tried to make the most of that week, stressed and as tired as he was he was a trooper. Our girls will always remember this time. Wishing you a happy time with your children. Xo
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What an awful thing for you to bare, you are too young. I am thinking of you and wishing you happy times to build memories for your children to share with their children. They will never forget you and the world is a better place for having you here. Best wishes....
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Cancer is just so cruel....it robs us of the most important thing...life!!! My husband is also incurable and currently undertaking pallitive care. We have had a few months now to come to terms with it, and we try to make lots of good memories...from as simple as a BBQ with lots of friends and family, to organising holidays that have always been on the back burner. I hope you can enjoy some quality time with your family when you come to Brisbane, a walk along the river, a swim at southbank (though it could be cold)a picnic in the park.....I would think time spent anywhere as long as it is with your family would be precious. I have so much respect for people like yourself and my husband, you are so strong, and selfless....thinking of your families before yourselves. Stay Strong and enjoy every precious moment with your family. “Even the smallest act of caring for another person is like a drop of water -it will make ripples throughout the entire pond...”
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Im so sorry for all your going through.Keep strong be as happy as can be. Enjoy every moment you have with your family. I will think of you. My heart goes out to you and all your family. Yes life is very short.
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Im so sorry for all your going through.Keep strong be as happy as can be. Enjoy every moment you have with your family. I will think of you. My heart goes out to you and all your family. Yes life is very short.
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Well a fun time was had by all while I was in Brisbane. The weather was a bit crappy when we went to Seaworld but it wasn't pouring down rain just the light miserable stuff just to be annoying. Movieworld the next day was fantastic. Couldn't have had nicer weather. Friday was spent all day at the hospital as another PET scan was ordered. Tumours have grown which is understandable and some more lymph nodes are now affected. We went to Outback Spectacular that night and we all just had a blast. If you ever get a chance to go. Sunday night after we came home I went downhill again in chronic pain. I spent the weekend before we left in hospital with similar pain and all they did was dope me up and sent me home the following day with nothing. I thought they would have given me a script for some painkillers. I put up with the pain on Sunday night and cried myself to sleep.my husband phoned the cancer care nurse on Monday as this stage of my illness is all new to us as previously you wouldn't have known I was sick. She was lovely and got us in touch with the Pallative care nurse who got us on the straight and narrow and knew exactly what was causing my pain. In the meantime I had my doctors surgery nurse come to the house and I haas given a very strong injection of morphine. Well a zombie I was for the rest of the day. When we found out that that I didn't need the morphine all I needed was steroid tablets it was a relief. Today I should be painfree and I was even driving my car yesterday. The radiotherapy shots worked on my hip and I might even be able to dance tomorrow night at my Hippy Birthday party. Preparations have been much easier as I feel like I'm back to normal again. My heart does go out to a very dear friend of mine at the moment though as she lost her dear husband on Monday from Pancreatic cancer which he has battled the last couple of years. Well must go and get the kids organised as life goes on today.
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