Hi there, I would be interested in peoples views on a rather morbid topic. For the past nine years I have had lunch once a week with a friend who has a progressive and debilitating illness. Very erudite person, great range of interests, excellent lunch companion - we can talk knowledgeably about most things. Over that time he has gone from being fully independent to being confined to a wheelchair. Both of us have had to deal with elderly parents in their nineties - dementia, loss of bodily dignity, high dependency care etc., etc. Both of us have consoled each other that at least we will not put our children through that as neither of us are likely to make our seventies, let alone our nineties. That has raised for me, at least, what responsibility I have for the future. I am involved in a number of organisations that are going through the process of looking ten years ahead and wanting to appoint senior people. I am happy to give the benefit of my knowledge and skills to this area but draw the line at trying to push a particular perspective as I am unlikely to be around to have to deal with the consequences of my actions. Am I just running a cop-out, should I be more proactive or should I take a back seat? As I said a morbid topic. Cheers Sailor
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Slightly morbid topic, I agree, but I also think "the end of the road" or if you like, the "light at the end of the tunnle" can be a positive thing for someone who has experienced so much pain and discomfort for so long. I am scared to say what I really want to with regard to this topic for fear my position will step on toes and offend some. I don't think you're copping out at all - if I were in your position, I'd be doing exactly what I wanted for the remainder of my life - it would be my right - and I think it is yours. If you're in a position to take one day at a time, I'd certainly do that. I don't think you should impose any sort of responsibility on yourself for the future, I think that puts a lot of stress on you.
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