Husbands cancer diagnosis

[milly8517]

Hi, struggling to know what to say to my husband after he has been diagnosed with cancer.  He is distraught as you would expect but I struggle to know what to say when he says he is scared of not being around to see grandkids grow up, we are at the beginning of all this and I'm not sure what the best way to help is.

[Susana_CCNSW]

Hello Milly8517

Thanks for reaching out, I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. It is such a difficult and delicate thing to do, not knowing what to say or how to best support your husband.

I hope our community members would be able to share with you what they have done in your case, or what would they like to hear if they are the ones with cancer.

If you live in Australia you can call our support and information line on 131120 to find out what support is available for you or your husband.

Best wishes

Susana 

Cancer Council 

Online Community

[Isadora2021]

I’m so sorry, Milly8517.  Cancer barges uninvited into our lives and causes massive upheavals. There’s no putting lip stick on that pig. I was diagnosed with stage 4 appendix cancer in 2021 and after a wild few years of treatment I’ve been in remission since 2921. 

All I can say to you is not discount your husband’s feelings but feed hope and encouragement to him. With the way cancer treatments have advanced so phenomenally in recent years, there’s a lot of living to do yet ❤️‍🩹 Find a medical team who you have faith in and are comfortable with. As a patient that has been the best thing I did. I interviewed my oncologist and his nurse practitioner thoroughly after reviewing him on line  before choosing them.  They are fabulous and suit my desire to use conventional treatments with holistic support (diet, nutrition, exercise, mindfulness etc).

I’m so impressed and glad you’ve reached out for support and guidance.  You will need it. Cancer affects those who love us as well as ourselves as patients.