I’m so sorry. It sounds like you’re doing a great job of putting your head down and focussing on your end date  for treatment.  My mother has cancer in her family so it wasn’t such a huge shock for me, although very unwelcome  I’ve always thought I’ve inherited more of my motherr’s genes than my father’s. Darned it.    I’m so glad you’ve been able to work through treatment. I was able to do so too with careful management of side effects. I think that really helped me. I hope it’s helping you too. It gave a good reason to get up and push through.  I loved my job (sounds very different from yours though!!!) and it helped give me purpose.   Wishing you the best and prayers up for successful treatment 🙏🌺 ... View more

Thank you Cindi54!  We grew up with both dogs and cats. I still dream of getting a cat again, one day. My name here is actually my Siamese cat’s name. She was reacted by the other cats at my parents house so became my cat. Loved her to bits! She passed some years ago. I love the thought of you going down to the dog park. We have several people join us too who would love a dog but for various reasons haven’t got one!  The joy the dogs in their play time is just brilliant ❤️‍🩹 Wiahing you all the best.  ... View more

I hope you and your mum have more time than I had with mine after diagnosis. Keep hope while also preparing for the worst,  and not waste time. The memories of that month are very very special to my family and mum’s closest friends, full of love and care.  Please do keep in contact here if you need to  ❤️‍🩹 ... View more

@Cindi54  I loved your post! I was diagnosed with stage 4 appendix cancer in 2021. I started consulting Dr Google and quickly stopped as I would statistically be done and dusted by 2023!! Each person is different and it doesn’t help!  I had initial debulking surgery followed by 6 months of fortnightly Folfiri and Avastin before qualifying for HIPEC (and cytoreductive surgery and a peritonectomy) in early 2022. I’ve been NED since and moved from quarterly surveillance scans to 6 monthly scans (with blood tests left at 3 monthly).   I have 2 dogs and they are fantastic ♥️🐾  They help jeep me up and getting about. I didn’t include the benefit of meeting other dogs and dog owners in the local parks when weighing the pros and cons of dog ownership’s. A wonderful  additional benefit.  ... View more

Please keep us updated. The thing I’ve learnt as a stage 4 cancer patient is that no one understands us as well as other cancer patients. You’ve made a whole community of new friends and supporters by joining this community 😊❤️‍🩹 ... View more

@Beto   Such a great post!  I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in 2021 and didn’t have a Will despite being in my 50’s.  I am currently in remission but it will come back sometime.   So very important to put a Will in place to avoid any hassles.  We could get run over any day!   I now have one! I enjoyed making it so I could leave specific items to people who I knew would love them and also make provision for the care of my 2 Labradoodles.  It makes it so much easier for those we leave behind.   i am naughty  though in that I still need to address my wish for assisted dying as well as an enduring power of attorney and appointment of a guardian.   Thank you for the reminder to finish getting my A into G 😊 ... View more

@SyXx  It breaks my heart to read your post 💔 It takes me back to 2006 when my mother was diagnosed as terminal. Mum was also my best friend. She was also my support in amongst family dynamics.  She was so important in my life. She has left a huge hole. Parts I can fill so the hole has grown less traumatic over time, but parts can never ever be filled.   We thought mum had flu but she had small cell lung cancer, and she was gone in less than 30 days after diagnosis. We started out treatment with hope for a few years but those were dashed.   It’s totally normal to fall apart. That’s what loving sets you up for. But you do need to get it together enough to be there for your mum. Even  if that means you need to take some time off work  to reduce stress and to enable you to focus.   This time is super precious for you both. Please make sure you have support. My brother was unable to do so and went AWOL. My sister and I supported each other as well as my mum and my dad. We’d break down and regroup on the phone each night after sharing care.   You have a right and need to collapse and regroup but this is now about making the best of the time left for both you and your mum, not wasting time like we all do when we think it will roll on endlessly and building memories to comfort you in years to come ❤️‍🩹 ... View more

I’m so sorry, Milly8517.  Cancer barges uninvited into our lives and causes massive upheavals. There’s no putting lip stick on that pig. I was diagnosed with stage 4 appendix cancer in 2021 and after a wild few years of treatment I’ve been in remission since 2921.  All I can say to you is not discount your husband’s feelings but feed hope and encouragement to him. With the way cancer treatments have advanced so phenomenally in recent years, there’s a lot of living to do yet ❤️‍🩹 Find a medical team who you have faith in and are comfortable with. As a patient that has been the best thing I did. I interviewed my oncologist and his nurse practitioner thoroughly after reviewing him on line  before choosing them.  They are fabulous and suit my desire to use conventional treatments with holistic support (diet, nutrition, exercise, mindfulness etc).   I’m so impressed and glad you’ve reached out for support and guidance.  You will need it. Cancer affects those who love us as well as ourselves as patients.  ... View more