My dad has kidney failure in one of his kidneys and the other one doesn't function at all. He is only dialysis 3 times a week. He was just about to go onto the transplant list however at the last stage of tests they found cancer in his kidney and metastasis on both lungs. From going from a high of potentially going om the kidney transplant list to you have cancer was awful, a big shock and very upsetting for dad and as a family.
He had a consultation about 4 months ago and was told the cancer hadn't spread any further or got much bigger which I guess was good news however my dad can't be treated due to his general health (heart bypass, diabetic, kidney failure). It is so difficult to know my dad has cancer but even worse that it can't be treated. I keep thinking the worse and thinking how long does he have etc. We don't actually know how long he has had it so t of me says he could have had it for a while and has been living with for some time. I want to enjoy my time with my dad and try not to be negative or think "how long does he have". He is 3 grand kid who he adores and my mum also so that keeps him going but it pops into my head now and again that one day my dad won't be here and it's horrible he has this awful illness.
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