Sad and lost

[Marley]

Hi. My name is Marley and my husband has stage 3 non small cell lung cancer. He is not coping very well and sits all day with his head in his hands. He won't talk about it to me . He is having Chemo and Immunotherapy. Doctor says no cure, just more time. He gets out of breath very quickly and can't do anything anymore. I feel really sad that I can't help him. I just wanted to write it down and get it off my chest. I don't know what to expect in the coming weeks, but I will have to take it as it comes.

[LindaG]

Hi Marley, so sorry for this horrible diagnosis for your husband. I understand his grief and fear. Maybe he could talk to someone other than you? I know you just want to help him.  Just do what you can for him.  Ask him what he needs from you maybe. My husband was my support person when I had cancer and he was amazing. I think it’s hard for some men to open up about their feelings. I hope you have some support for you too. Love and prayers to you both🙏💕 Linda 

[Marley]

Thankyou for your kind words Linda. I will be there for him and no matter what. Sometimes we don't need words. A gentle hand on his shoulder says a lot. It would be nice if he would share his feelings with me, maybe as time goes on he may open up. It's just hard to be so helpless and I just wanted to talk about it to people who have been there. Thanks again for your reply 

[CarerWife]

Hi Marley.

How are you? Hope your husband is beating his cancer.

My husband has stage 4 cancer and is really struggling with all the treatments and radiotherapy.

[Ashley_ccnsw]

Hi Marley,

Thank you for coming on here and sharing your story. It's very brave and plenty of people here have similar experiences. It sounds like a really intense time for both of you. If you or your husband need any additional emotional support, please contact 13 11 20 if you need a debrief or even a referral to our counselling support services.

All the best

Ashley