Hi all, my name is sandrina, 3 months ago I was diagnosed with lung cancer, I have small cells carcinoma, which means they can get rid of the small cells but they will come back. The cancer in my right lung is moving it’s way around my windpipe, my Oncologist is telling me they need to do chemo straight away I have just finished my 2 nd lot of chemo lost most of my hair after the first chemo. I feel like I am just going thru the motion . I have a family that stresses me out to the brink of why am I doing this ?? I want to beat this, but the more they stress me the more I think I should just give up. The support of my family that said they would be there for me has gone.
Sandrina - I can only give you an answer specific to how *I* see the world, and I understand that
a) I might be crazy; and
b) there are many other ways to see the world
But for me .. if friends or family treat you poorly, they either
a) don't love/respect/care; or
b) don't understand
If it's (a) then it can't be cured. I cut them loose and choose to have only positive relationships in my life. If it's (b) it can be educated by clearly and carefully explaining what you need.
The thing about cancer is that it's *YOU* in the spotlight. They are supporting cast. If they can't do their jobs, you need to re-focus and make sure you tackle this fight in whatever way best fits you. (Some people choose not to have treatment - crazy in my opinion - but everybody has choices available --- the main point is that they are YOUR choices. Allow people to help you, influence you, advise you, guide you - but if they only give you stress and heartache - you need to do whatever is necessary to remove that noise while you fight for your life).
If they care, understand or both: they should respect your wishes and help not hinder you.
Just my opinion. Sorry you're in a difficult situation, I had to be very protective of my own mental health when dealing with cancer, and I feel strongly that every cancer patient needs to do the same thing.
Thank you, I am trying to get myself in a good place. I don’t want to overthink, I understand my daughter who is 39 who says she sees me but I’m not me, and that she doesn’t want to be around while I go for all my appts. I think she’s scared lost and lonely like I am, but I am also hurting too. My husband and youngest son are bi polar and my other son is a schizophrenic psychosis and I have always looked after them, but now it’s taking its toll on me. I am putting in for a transfer (house) and I am thinking of moving there by myself for my own peace of mind and health. Thank you I will keep my head up and just keep moving.
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