just been diagnosed

[bleu_foxx]

Hi I have not long been diagnosed with breast cancer. My specialist told me on the day after the operaation that he had taken out all of my cancer by a mascectomy, plus an exillery clearance. I was told thr day after that he had got all of my cancer with the removal of my breast. A few days ago i had an appointment with him. I was told i didnt have two cancers in that breast but 3.. one at 1o'clock..2o'clock and 11o'clock. He was looking very shocked to see what was on the papers he had in his hand. He said to me, he had done all he could and left it at that. i was saying thnx for a few minutes, but he didnt look up from them papers. I knew there was something amiss. The next day i saw my oncologist specialist. she told me the same as my specialist had. he had done all he could. he had gone as far back to the chest wall as he could and he couldnt get no more. I still tested positive. I am so scared. Can someone tell me. Where do i go from here. Has onyone had the same as me and survived?

[Quijote]

Hi Bleu Fox, I have not had the same but felt that I should reply to give you some guidance. First of all, you may not get much of a reply in this forum as its not as well supported as the other forums. Second, I can understand how you feel and my thoughts and prayers are with you. It can all become a bit much to take at the start and the look on a doctors face, a subtle comment etc can all be taken in the worst way. There is always always, ALWAYS hope. You now have to talk to a broad range of people and I would suggest you start with your oncologist and the people at the cancer centres. Do not rest with just one opinion, get informed and involved in your treatment. I wish you well and look forward to hearing how its going.        

[jgillespie]

Hi thereI didn't have the same diagnosis as you either, but I can still understand how devastated you are feeling right now.  You're in shock and it's hard to be proactive when you are frozen with fear.If you don't feel capable at the moment, ask a family member or close friend to organize a second opinion for you.  Talk to your GP to get names of other oncologists if you don't know who to go to.You have to be prepared in case you get the same answers from other doctors but taking some time to see other oncologists will give you breathing space and hopefully get you to a point where you will be able to hear what treatment options are available.  I remember when I was in that state of shock, I couldn't take in a lot of what doctors said to me.  Just because the surgeon wasn't able to remove all the cancer does not mean there's nothing left to be done!Always take someone with you to doctors' appointments because you won't remember everything that is said.  Ask your buddy to take notes or even tape the entire appointment.  That way, you can check later if you understood properly or if there is anything you need more information about.  Your GP should be able to clarify anything you're not sure about if you can't talk to a specialist straight away.  If you are worried about anything, don't put off seeking help - that just leads to feeling more alone and anxious.  If your GP isn't helpful, change doctors.I recommend that you find a support group too - talking to other people in the same boat, even if their diagnosis isn't exactly the same as yours, can be reassuring because you know that they 'get' how you are feeling.Best of luckJane