Daughter of Terminal Patient

[JasAri3875]

Hi there. 

My mom was originally diagnosed with neuroendocrine neoplasm originating on her epiglotis. Since it has metastasized to most major organs and her skeletal structure. A few weeks ago she was officially placed on hospice. I am having an extremely hard time focusing on right now. I just keep thinking about everything she might not be there for. How do I move past this mental block and appreciate the time I have? 

Thank you in advance for your support and advice.

[LindaG]

Hi JasAri, so sorry about your mum’s diagnosis. When my mum was dying I thought I would not be able to live without her. It’s going on to 3 years without her and somehow I have moved on. I still have moments of sadness and miss her always. I think you must be a lot younger than me as mum was with me for most of my life. All I can suggest is just be with her as much as you can. I would sing to mum, pray for her, cry! I don’t know if this helps you. It’s just so hard and so distressing to go through this. Hope you have family and friends to support you with your emotions. 🙏💕 Linda G

[JasAri3875]

I am 32. She is only 58. I'm getting married this summer and don't know if she will still be here or be able to attend. I am having a very hard time with it. My fiance is extremely supportive but my dad is so angry he is taking it out on me which is just feeding my depression. 

[Lyndy60]

So sorry to hear this about your mum. I don’t know what to say during this hard time for you. My heart goes out to you.

I recently got diagnosed with tonque cancer and am about to go thru chemo radiotherapy.  

[JasAri3875]

When my mom was still going through treatment the radiation affected her more than the chemo. Usually about a day or two after chemo and about a week for radiation. I wish you all the luck with your treatment. 

[Lyndy60]

Thank you Jas. And I pray for u and your mum during this difficult time. 🙏🙏