Just looking for some advice….
My family are all in the UK and I haven’t seen them for a couple of years now. I had planned to go home for Christmas but then my partner got stage 3 colorectal cancer and everything has of course just been put on hold.
Over the last few weeks my mental health has really gone downhill (long story and largely to do with cracks in our relationship) and even though I know it’s no one’s fault I am so resentful of the fact that I’m unable to see my family indefinitely, when I feel I need them the most.
So, my question is, is it even something I should be considering bringing up in conversation with my partner, that I need to go and see my family? Am I being selfish and abandoning him when he needs me the most (no doubt that’s how it will be seen).
One of the problems with this is that we are wholly reliant on one another, he isn’t super super close with his family (as in he doesn’t see them much) and doesn’t have any friends that he sees, so if I leave him, even for a short while, I am leaving him alone.
I mean, that’s his choice, to not see his family much or connect with his friends, so do I need to take that on as my burden on top of everything else? Am I being unreasonable to even consider leaving him right now, for a couple of weeks?
Just for extra information, he is going through immunotherapy and is up to his 4th treatment and is feeling very good, really good in fact.
