At least you are trying to sort it out in your mind . Maybe start with one thing and when you succeed move on to another . You will get there if that is your wish . It's ok to do nothing or something frivolous in between work . ... View more

I think everyone here understands how it's not easy to accept the new normal . Even as I accepted mine ,very gradually ,I kept thinking that I wanted life to go back to how it was before . After 3 years now ,I'd still gladly go back if it was possible . Wishing you well . ... View more

I am so sorry to see what you and your husband are going through . ... View more

I am sorry for your loss. I hope you have all the support you need during this most difficult time . ... View more

First of all,you are not a faker . If I'm wrong then I'll bet there are many fakes here ,me included ,as I'm in remission which could last for days , months or even years . I have grandchildren aged 2 and 4 (sisters) so "get" what you were saying in your first two rants . I absolutely agree with your rant about friends . The same applies to family members in my case . I reckon ,if you don't know what to say ,say that for a start. Not knowing what to say may be a cop out . If you care enough surely you can say SOMETHING . Some do say silly or inapproriate things but at least it's an attempt to show concern (mostly) . I'm glad your little boy will be ok . He is so young to endure this . ... View more

I agree with both of the previous replies . ... View more

It's still so recent . It will take a long time to adjust to life without your husband . I can't really imagine how it must feel but imagine that it must seem unreal at times and yet so real at other times . It's good that you can talk here whenever you need and others here have been through the loss of a spouse so they will understand . ... View more

I can relate to some of what you said but as my diagnosis is close to three years ago the memory and the impact of responses has faded . When it is still new it seems shocking and thoughtless AND it is ! In time you may forgive and even forget .People in general mean well but somehow often end up doing more harm than good by making inane comments . I think it springs from ignorance because they have not really listened well . As you say ,in time some may learn to understand . ... View more

Hello ,Kim . I hope you find one . It looks as though you must be having too much pain . ... View more

It was sad to read what is happening to you ,your husband and your kids . I was going to write that I'm surprised that some of your friends and family don't get it but I know that seems to be the case for most people unless they have lived through having cancer or their spouse or partner has . Anyone in your position would feel much the same as you do . All I know of this cancer is what I've read here from posts of you and others . It's good that your mum's is there for your kids . I wish you could get more help . ... View more