Thank you Bev and Happy Daffodil Day to you too. Also a big hello to all carers (family,friends,medical) of a loved one with cancer, thanks for helping us make another birthday. ... View more

Aren't children special, they see the world through innocent and rose coloured glasses, it is a shame that us adults do not retain this. This made me smile, keep the stories coming Sandy. ... View more

Hi, do you get in trouble for keeping the toilet seat up and does your partner get in trouble for spending too much.....well then your married. LOL. Married and happy. Enjoy the read, keep them coming. Jules ... View more

Thank you Silly, you have educated me. I hope i can articulate this. From your response I discovered the avenue of 3rd person. I did not think of this. My doctor suggested use the gold lotto line....won but went through the money, which we did win $15.....hahaha so not a lie but didn't sit with me, felt like it was sarcastic. What feels right is "Time off for a loved one, all taken care of now", I will use this......its being truthful yet closed comment. Thanks again Silly. I love this site and the responses, I always manage to extract at least one useful tool. Jules ... View more

I also have to thank my group "In Touch" for survivors. It unearthed emotions...... ... View more

Hi Craftyone and Silly, Yesterday was a bad day....the first really bad day. Yes I cried and sobbed and punched my pillow and my hubby stood by and handed me tissues, god bless him. I had renal reflux as a child and cancer took healthy kidney. I did ask "why me".....it was cleansing though. I am fighting going back to work....I really don't know how to answer questions....about why i was away. I have kept it very private so only manager and hr staff know. Also i did some soul searching overnight and discovered that I'm having "victim" attitude again. I guess Im scared of moving out of the "cancer recovery" phase and back into work....I guess i associate being able to work = healthy, and I know that I'm not. Im scared of going forward to the future because it is not written, I want to stay here where i feel safe believe it or not. Its a head space issue.......I feel so very mixed up with emotions. My doctor is pushing for me to go back to work in October and i fell into the pleasing mode and said OK.......Im mad with myself for not being authentic to myself. Thank you for sharing, it has made me stop, look and listen. The great thing about this blogging is that you can cry and indulge and then you get a reality check with other bloggers and say "Geez I have a lot to be grateful for". What happens now for me.....well. I watch my fluid intake and limit foods (Im missing my strawberries) that cause uric acid.....my blood pressure is good and cholesterol is boarder line. I don't need binders for uric acid or minerals yet....so I guess I'm healthy as i can be at present. As for cancer, chemo and radiation do not work so surgery is only option. After writing all this I have pin pointed the trigger for all this. When dr filled out income protection forms he wrote "chronic renal failure". I have been working through the cancer and pushed the renal to the back of my mind. I could only process one scare at a time.......I realise I'm too far in the future and not taking it day by day.... ... View more

Thank you so much Mr H. Yes Im taking control of life and work. Instead of me working around my life and work and am taking steps for "them" to work around me. Jules ... View more