What a beautiful tribute to have a special place in the garden Bev, I have a little plastic sunflower in my "dreams" pot. I grew up at the beach, Yeppoon and Dad's favourite flower was the sunflower. The sunflower follows the rays of the sun from dawn to sunset. He was 54 when he passed and this was the first anniversary since diagnosis and surgery in April 11. It hit me hard and I was blue and teary and mentioned to my hubby about how I'm at peace with it all. He hit the nail on the head by saying, you have survivor guilt because you survived your cancer but Dad didn't! Ahhh wisdom. It amazing how technology and science have come so far that they can detect heredity genes of cancer.......It is a gift to have such knowledge and powerful tool for life. jules ... View more

Hi silly, geez you would have been very young and that is tragic and unexpected. Thank you, you have made me realise i was able to say goodbye to my dad. I wish i had known him as a man not just a dad. ... View more

Such courage, it's hard to make the right decision and only YOU know what is right......you put another life first before your own and that takes courage ... View more

Hi everyone, I started to read Lance Armstrong "It's not about the bike" and didn't get past page 20. I actually didn't continue with the book, but went in the opposite direction and am reading and underlining phases from Louise Hay "The power within you". I believe Lance's book would have been a great read for me at diagnosis and before surgery as it is really aggressive and "you won't beat me" attitude, but now that Im 3mths post cancer, I find that i am sensitive to aggression and its important for me to find "my" own affirmations". Thank you for your opinions and knowledge, as it made me stop and assess what healing information I wanted to accept. I so love this site that we are all secure enough to participate "our" thoughts. Thanks everyone. ... View more

No matter how bad everything is today, it won't be like this forever. You need to have this checked. Don't let fear be in control. Think about all your energy you save 15min dr's appt and tests, to weeks and weeks of fear. Trust me, it is a lot of effort and energy to worry everyday. It is better to be the brave woman you are and get checked. All the best. ... View more

Hi Chez, Firstly im sorry for your loss and send you love. Be gentle on yourself, ensure you have 1 spoke person in yr family for people to contact about how you and yr family are and a written list of what people can do for you eg, food, housework, sitting, paying bills. Most people offer help because it MAKES THEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES, however with a list written, you can actually put them to work. With your work, takes as much as they give, as you will take 2 steps forward and 6 backwards. You are amazing to be back at work and yes it does occupy the monkey mind. At night time when it is quiet.....well I try to meditate even if I can only manage 1 minute, it was 1 minute at peace with no thoughts...... Love and blessings ... View more

Thank you and Thank you. I have picked up Lance's bio "it not about the bike" from library and looking forward to reading and being inspired. I have also found another book which is really hitting the notes with me, "from this moment on" by arlene cotter. I was driving home from the library and TODAY I thought, "im not a victim Im a survivor", since joining the survivors c-connect I have been doing one thing wrong, I have had the mind set of a VICTIM.........Yes a lightbulb moment for ME..........I have been CHOOSING VICTIM however i am now EARNING SURVIVOR.......Thank you Quijote for sharing. Jules ... View more

Dear Harker, Thank you for sharing your story, My hubby, mum, but especially my sister understands. She has advanced lupus. Wow, what you said about no comparison with another, that is what susie said yesterday. She rang this morning to say sorry for being so hard, but I told her it was the opposite...I needed to hear it.....everything you said about it's my life, so get in the middle of it and start calling the shots...... I have affirmations on the fridge but susie suggested, put them where there is a reflection, like when cleaning teeth and you look in the mirror, have your affirmations there, because this is where reflection happens in a subtle way........ I know susie hasn't had cancer, but its not always cancer that brings us all together here, its the grief stages and being in control of our thoughts. Thank you so very much Harker, I have just had a lightbulb moment.......I have translated from you to not look around corners too often and keep on track because it is MY TRACK......... I will go forth now, thank you again Harker and take care love. Jules ... View more