Hi Reece87,   This must be extremely distressing for you and everyone eventually finds their way to cope.  There's no magic solution for grief. You have time in this grief to work out what you want to say and do to ease her journey as well as your own.   It sounds as if you've had a close bond throughout your life and that is a blessing on its own though your journey with you sister will stop earlier than either of you anticipated.  Do you have any old photos of the two of you when you were younger?  Perhaps you could show them to her or send them to her and you could write about the wonderful memories that you shared together.   I think that could also being her joy and perhaps some laughter.  Did you dance around to special songs?  Remind her of those.  Celebrate her life with her.  The grief is hard but I would rather feel that than not have had that love throughout your lives.          You could talk about what she wants for her daughter in the future.  I don't know what her situation is or who the child will end up living with but try to keep in contact with her as well.  It's unfortunate your son is seeing you sad and distressed but unavoidable.  Talk to him about it and explain that sometimes in life, very sad things happen and it's ok to be sad and cry because that's how we let the sadness out.  It's also ok to spend time with your son and make happy memories that he will look back on one day that bring him joy.   I wish you well on your journey which is a really hard one and I think you will get through it by focusing on what you do right now because today is all we have for sure.   ... View more